Who is a spanker and who receives the spanking

Whatever you want to share - personally I love to dominate and love pegging - especially good with a paddle

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Sure. Iā€™ll go for some of the general and obvious kink terms as more detail would probably need an article:
Anal play, Anilingus, Bondage (including really restrictive), Dominance, Gagging (in particular FFā€™ing), Humiliation (mild), Impact play (moderate), Objectification (love this), Public sex, Role play, Voyeurism.

Theyā€™re the main ones I can think of right now. All of these from the Dom perspective of giving, and not receiving.

I recently got an o mouth ring for when Iā€™m submissive and I love this as I love it when he mouth f****s me

Love all your things - you should start a list on a few
But 80% of the time Iā€™m dominant but every so often do enjoy being a subā€¦

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I myself love to be on the receiving end of impact play! Toys like paddles and crops are so much fun to bring to the bedroom (or wherever your atā€‹:wink:) Nothing beats hand on skin contact for me!! Raw, hot red marks and some light bruising is a must for me.

And donā€™t forget about the aftercareā€‹:wink:

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Sub and dom dynamics are amazing. So many people grow up thinking that theyā€™re weird for having these thoughts and urges, then realise itā€™s pretty normal

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There is something really primitive, raw and connecting with skin on skin. But options are never a bad thing

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I can be both but definitely prefer to be spanked by my wife she lives using the flogger but when I spank her I just prefer my hand.

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I am technically a switch which sometimes is not well regarded within the BDsm community but it works for me and my OH.

@be3169 - I know what you mean - you should be one or the other - and Iā€™m 90% dom - but every so often you need to feel a firm spank across your bottom and be told off :paddle:

@batjamboree youā€™re like the LH house dom!

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Iā€™m predominantly sub, but we have a very playful relationship so I get away with spanking hubby sometimes lol. If he bends over in front of me for example, Iā€™ll deliver a swat on his rear and remind him that ā€œgood boys bend at the kneeā€, to which he, messing around, will say ā€œthankyou Mommy!ā€ . So yeah, weā€™re both spankers and spankees, but he spanks me because heā€™s really my Dom and I spank him because I like to live dangerously lol.

Weā€™ve only recently begun impact play so weā€™re still working out what we like.

She doesnā€™t spank me but she uses a cane, crop, paddle, strap or bullwhip on me as the fancy takes her.
I enjoy the pain of the impacts immensely but I also love to carry the marks and bruises she makes on me.
As soon as the bruises fade we make some new ones.

If Iā€™m doing chores and he spanks me. I donā€™t like it, he does it to wind me up. But spank me all he wants in the bedroom.

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Itā€™s good you work together @rockstar - I hope she finds something easy to use on you - may be an idea to use the back of the hairbrush- nice to hold and good spank

Well, you can see his fingers on my buttocks from time to time or the nice varm, rogue color, mostly when he thinks that I have deserved it. That is what I like :heart_hands:

I receives the spanking :wave: :wave: :clap:

@sofiedk72 - do you ever spank him or are you the one to be spanked :paddle:

@batjamboree I am the one who gets spanked :clap:

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Iā€™m the one generally spanking my husband but occasionally I like to go over the knee for a hand spankingā€¦ :paddle: