I recently got an o mouth ring for when I’m submissive and I love this as I love it when he mouth f****s me
Love all your things - you should start a list on a few
But 80% of the time I’m dominant but every so often do enjoy being a sub…
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I myself love to be on the receiving end of impact play! Toys like paddles and crops are so much fun to bring to the bedroom (or wherever your at
) Nothing beats hand on skin contact for me!! Raw, hot red marks and some light bruising is a must for me.
And don’t forget about the aftercare
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Sub and dom dynamics are amazing. So many people grow up thinking that they’re weird for having these thoughts and urges, then realise it’s pretty normal
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There is something really primitive, raw and connecting with skin on skin. But options are never a bad thing
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I can be both but definitely prefer to be spanked by my wife she lives using the flogger but when I spank her I just prefer my hand.
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I am technically a switch which sometimes is not well regarded within the BDsm community but it works for me and my OH.
@be3169 - I know what you mean - you should be one or the other - and I’m 90% dom - but every so often you need to feel a firm spank across your bottom and be told off 
@batjamboree you’re like the LH house dom!
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I’m predominantly sub, but we have a very playful relationship so I get away with spanking hubby sometimes lol. If he bends over in front of me for example, I’ll deliver a swat on his rear and remind him that “good boys bend at the knee”, to which he, messing around, will say “thankyou Mommy!” . So yeah, we’re both spankers and spankees, but he spanks me because he’s really my Dom and I spank him because I like to live dangerously lol.
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We’ve only recently begun impact play so we’re still working out what we like.
She doesn’t spank me but she uses a cane, crop, paddle, strap or bullwhip on me as the fancy takes her.
I enjoy the pain of the impacts immensely but I also love to carry the marks and bruises she makes on me.
As soon as the bruises fade we make some new ones.
If I’m doing chores and he spanks me. I don’t like it, he does it to wind me up. But spank me all he wants in the bedroom.
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It’s good you work together @rockstar - I hope she finds something easy to use on you - may be an idea to use the back of the hairbrush- nice to hold and good spank
@sofiedk72 - do you ever spank him or are you the one to be spanked
I’m the one generally spanking my husband but occasionally I like to go over the knee for a hand spanking…
I love being on the receiving end of the paddle as my wife strikes my rear, especially when she has me stand next to the bed and dictate how fast or slow I should be stroking myself. I end up with tears down running down my face and a mess sprayed in front of me, but the hottest part is the next day sitting at my desk. The discomfort sitting down brings back all the memories and really turns me on for more.
You are not wrong, at least not to me as I currently have the the bruising from a great self care session, haha
Both parties- share the spoils
@justin.j - nice to hear you love a sore bottom after spanking
It’s a good job you got a wife who is happy to spank you
Can I ask if you take a paddle or cane
@batjamboree I really am lucky. She would do it to satisfy my kink if asked, but she loves delivering the pain and is so wet after. It takes very little play for her to go over the edge during and after our impact play 
Right now we have built up to using a leather paddle on my rear and just added crop for my balls. That crop stings so good on my sensitive sack! Next step will be a wooden paddle and I am so excited for it after reading a lot on this forum. I both want the more intense pain during, but can’t wait to feel it when I sit down days later and remember our fun.
Also, we haven’t talked about using a cane, but after seeing quite a few posts and the pictures of what it does I think that will be a purchase sooner than later!
Mrs W here …
Usually when its Mr W and myself, I am the primary spanker… he likes to do a bit, but its far more fun when I spank him… always include the nipple clamps too …
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