Love her toys. Helped pick them when shopping from LH. Turn on when she uses them. Hope she uses solo but not sure. Thought of her solo drives me wild. Love watching her use them.
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I’m early 40s married man and have been using sex toys for a good 6 or 7 years now. I order and use more than my wife. My wife lets me do the ordering and I normally select what toys to use.
I try to encourage her to take toys abroad on her work trips but she’s a bit worried about her luggage being looked into so she said she’s fine with her fingers abroad.
I wouldn’t mind her using solo at all or with me.
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Not all men. When I first started dating my wife she said she had a rampant rabbit toy I said can you show me how you use it and so she did she got comfortable on the sofa and used the rabbit on her clit I had a fantastic view of her body and watching her play with herself was amazing. We have alway used toys since that day.
A few female friends of my wife have told us that when they have started a new relationship the male parter has thrown their toys away which is just crazy.
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They arent, i think it is because she was hiding it. Or maybe her toy was significantly bigger than what he has…
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I think as a man when growing up there is not much talking about sex toys so men are scared that they are not doing their job properly and being replaced by toys. Having been in these shoes I found that being with a partner who is open and honest about sex toys goes a long way to easing that sort of issue and on the plus side it is also a lot of fun to be able to partake in this fun at times with the wife.
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Media and porn have often taken a toll on men’s viewpoints towards sex.
Growing up I very much felt that it was my job to please the woman and provide the ‘O’ and the idea of using assistance was horrifying.
However, now I am happily married and we introduced toys into the bedroom I fully appreciate that sexy toys are my team mates and not the opposition.
It’s a full change of mindset and not an easy one. Open communication discussions and trial and error
Are all required.
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If my wife wanted toys I’d be happy to have her use them especially together
I’d love to have plugs etc I openly used
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We have a nice selection of things from Lovehoney now, mainly we use them together and on each other, not much solo play really.
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Im 26 and love toys ive actually convinced my partner to buy more since being with her
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As a man, I’ve often wondered this myself. I own a lot of sex toys and the free gifts that have come with those toys have sometimes taken me down roads that I’m not sure I would have taken.
I got a free prostate massager years ago, would never have thought of buying one, but I absolutely loved it and have quite a few anal toys now that I use not only myself, but with my partner.
I feel like men shouldn’t be worried about what people think about the use of sex toys. It’s a private thing, but they can really help your relationships and can help you to feel pleasure in ways you haven’t felt before.
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Love all of these comments @martinH1 and completely agree, although in our world, it was actually MrLM who introduced me to toys, and now we have so many.
I think that to have a healthy lifestyle, I agree with your comment about talking, especially coming from someone who had something of a less liberal upbringing. Now we have some fantastic times, both on our own, together, and on or own together, if you know what I mean.
Toys are there for fun and enjoyment, and whilst IMO they cant replace the real thing, they arent there to, and MrLM knows that sizes and shapes, of which all of our’s vary, nothing really compares to the real thing, but there are alwayts going to be spots that he simply cant reach..
Great post. 
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I remember when I was a younger, there was this whole thing that women/girls should be satisfied with their bloke, if she masturbated than he was less of a man. Of course when your a teenager your hardly Casanova and quite frankly have no idea what your actually doing.
Me I was different I was actively encouraging girlfriends to masturbate as I found it a turn on, but much like how boys felt there was also a stigma on girls doing it for themselves, I’m happy to see that this trend has eased up over the years.
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I think that applied to me until I was about 40.
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I can’t help wondering if some of the guys threatened by toys have never had one of their own 
My H has never felt threatened by me having toys, but I think his appreciation of them was greater once he had one of his own.
This forum opened up the idea of him having one so I bought him one as a present. Now he has a few and they’re part of our time together too.
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Men are these marcho types and idiots, if it make sex better especially for her, bring on the sex toys as seeing women in ultimate pleasure and cumming is such a beautiful sight.
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I was never afraid of them or really knew about them in my early relationship so it was just normal sex to be fair. Then when I got with the wife. She all ready had a vibrator and to be fair we didn’t really use it as she said she had me. It was a few years later we found lh and then the toys started going in the basket lol. We don’t get dildos bigger than me as she’s not really into going bigger but we did get the 1 inch extender and that’s a push for her . We just have a bit of fun with it but she isn’t into anything really kinky or anything I just say what we do in our bedroom is fun between us .
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Is it a generational thing? Possibly…I have no clue how people in their early 20’s think.
As for men being afraid of sex toys, not in our house, if we were to count our toys I’d say it would be couples toys that we have most of.
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Wife and I both enjoy them although they are all hers. ( FTR, I love watching her with her toys)
We did recently purchase our first vibrating cock ring so we’re both ready to try that one out. Our biggest problem currently is that we need a bigger toy box….
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Way back in the beginning of our relationship I never even thought about them or owning one my original mindset was using toys would be offensive ie replacing partner same goes for masturbation I did it occasionally but I never spoke about it to OH
Fast forward to many years later we have lots of toys and talk about it often 
I guess if he has never had an exposure to them then it can be daunting and she should def do what you said tell him to come on here or talk about how normal toys are and they can really enhance a sexual relationship .
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I’m not afraid of sex toys at all, I have anal beads and used to use butt plugs in the past. Even if I didn’t have sex toys and found my partner had them I wouldn’t be worried. I’d be open with my partner and say I have sex toys and if they didn’t like it that’s their problem. I don’t currently have a partner but that’s what I’d do in that situation.
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