Personally forget the labels and enjoy! You are who your are. truely i woulsnt know where to label myself! I dont fit in bisexual as i do have prefernce ,i dont fit in straight nor lesbain..... Working this out was hard .even asked my gay uncle growing up whats my label his advuce "why do you want label? Your unique .enjoy life and if anyone ask you say your none of the aboveyour life" . to this day if i get asked i say im either greedy and want to shag the worl(amusing when friend asks or family member) or say i dont have label
I'm 100% straight. And so is my boyfriend.
Im 100% strait and very happy with my husband in every way
but if something happened and we couldnt be together any more i think i would actually like a relationship with a woman
I don't think it's possible to say you are 100% straight as a plank with absolutely no twinges of curiosity towards the same sex ever no matter how slight. I consider myself straight with a slight amount of curosity i've watched same sex porn and had brief moments where i've imagined myself in the situation. i think it's only natural to have these urges
I would identify as 100% straight, I find the male form just not attractive in any way. Yet every now and then i get a huge desire to suck some dick so long as it's part of group session with females involved.. Don't get me wrong, I am not turned on by the male form at all, I could not get aroused looking at gay porn or being in a all male session, but when I am horny, I like and do suck cock. Go figure, I can't work it out.
For most of my life I would have said I was a stright guy with the odd tendancy to get some sexual attraction from gay porn and guys penises in porn, but I never ever got any physical attraction to guys so I kept it away from my mind and never acted on it.
In the last year though I really got curious and found that whilst I still wasn't physically attracted to guy I was sexually to a degree, and therefore acted on the curiosity by engaging in same-sex sex which I liked and want to do again with the right guy(s).
I now am comfortable in calling myself bi-sexual but not gay. I'm always going to be looking for relationships with the opossite sex and not with the same sex, but when it comes to sex and fun I'm more than happy to do it with girls or guys.
Would love to say f**k the labels and just be you, and In most of my life this is my motto, but for my sexuality the label is being myself. I don't want to be someone with no label and I recently told people for the first time that I was bi-sexual and I loved the feeling from doing so.
I'm not saying you have to be bi, gay, straight or whatever and whatever you're comfortable with is fine by me.
I've had sex with a couple of women in the past and it was great. I've had sex with a much larger number of men and it was great ,(well most of them were). I've been very happily married to my hubby for 25 years during which time I have never wanted to have sex with anyone else - male or female. I can still appreciate beautiful women and gorgeous men but I don't want to jump into bed with them. Not actually sure how I'd 'label' myself - but as I don't have too - it doesn't concern me. I'm happy, that's all that matters :)
myghost wrote:
I don't think it's possible to say you are 100% straight as a plank with absolutely no twinges of curiosity towards the same sex ever no matter how slight. I consider myself straight with a slight amount of curosity i've watched same sex porn and had brief moments where i've imagined myself in the situation. i think it's only natural to have these urges
Well, that was exactly what I was wondering about... as I do think I am 100% straight and have absolutely no curiosity for a female sexually. I have nothing against women or men in general, and I'm fine with who I am, whether you put a label on it or not! I was just curious, as most people on these forums seem to have some degree of interest or curiosity towards their own gender, and I feel to be the minority with the way I am (having none)...
However, some of you mentioned not to be "physically attracted" to their own gender, but "sexually" yes. What do you mean by that, how do you separate "physical" from "sexual" attraction?
randomnessemma wrote:
Im 100% strait and very happy with my husband in every way
but if something happened and we couldnt be together any more i think i would actually like a relationship with a woman
Ok, so I get being one way or another, I get curiosity and being bi- or pan- or even asexual to whatever extent one wishes to be. So anyone is free to act upon their own desires, as long as he/she is not hurting anyone else.
With that said, how can one say 100% straight and then go on saying he/she wishes to be with someone of the same gender (I just quoted your comment, randomnessemma, but more people have given the same kind of input here, so it’s not just you I’m asking)? This is just confusing to me (sorry, if I’m being too rational)!
I scored 0 which means Hetro with no sexual tenancies towards women but then I knew that anyway, was interesting doing the questions. Id like do to more questions.
i think youre trying to turn sexuality into a definable, categoric thing, its not, its fluid and continuous, it can change with situation, a person doesnt have a genetic sexuality, you have a conditional sexuality, also, what you consider to be the definition for straight might not be someone elses. like colour, i could show you a series of colours and ask you whether it was blue or green, its likely i wonnt get the exact same anwers from everybody
Young and fun95 wrote:
i think youre trying to turn sexuality into a definable, categoric thing, its not, its fluid and continuous, it can change with situation, a person doesnt have a genetic sexuality, you have a conditional sexuality, also, what you consider to be the definition for straight might not be someone elses. like colour, i could show you a series of colours and ask you whether it was blue or green, its likely i wonnt get the exact same anwers from everybody
Yes, I probably am over-rationalizing it. However, turning back to the scale (you might or not agree with this method, but it is one that gives a chance to just about everybody), I think fluidity lies in between numbers 1-5. I get that.
I don't think that someone that puts oneself to 0 or 6 would also be able to say "it's fluid". Admitting that it’s fluid in my case would mean to wake up one day and find myself attracted to a woman, or for a gay guy to wake up with the urge for a vagina… I think saying this could happen is denying who we are. So fluidity to me does not mean anything could happen, it means I know who I am and embrace it.
"F-The test failed to match you to a Kinsey Type profile. Either you answered some questions wrong, or you are a very unusual person."
Huh? I answered the questions honestly so i dont know why i failed it??!i believe what they're saying is that at this moment they are 100% straight, but are aware that that could change in the future. but their own perception of their sexuality is that they are straight, even if you would consider them bi to some extent. this is one of the problems of labels, they have no clear definition and dont account for everything. my partner believes he is straight, but also thinks everybody is bi to some extent as there are 4bn men in the world, chances are he'll fancy one of them, that doesnt mean he fantasizes about men in any way, or penises, or could ever see himself in a relationship with a man, but one day, he may meet a man who he does like
I totally get the thing about not labelling, but wanted to add my opinion that I'm starting to think that labels can be useful in some circumstances. Particularly as a way of solidifying your own sense of self, but also because it's pretty much impossible to describe the nuances of your own individual sexuality to someone else, so sometimes it can be a lot easier to use a label because then they at least get an idea of your orientation.
I'm in an increasingly complicated relationship where I'd have to take about a week to try and describe my situation and orientation to anyone else, so labels are good short-hand even if they don't convey everything.
Recently I'm starting to come to terms with the fact that I don't find any men attractive, and that I'm not sure I'm capable of feeling that way about men. I personally don't feel comfortable thinking of myself as gay or lesbian, but just telling myself that unless something fundamentally changes in my sexuality I can rule out the idea of feeling any lust or attraction towards men makes me feel a bit better. I suppose that's not to say I'm 100% anything still, but I like being a bit more sure of my feelings because it's given me the freedom to actually want what I want rather than always trying to want what I feel is expected of me.
So the conclusion so far seems to be: yes, the majority of the members here on the forums is “fluid” or bi-curious or bi-sexual or pansexual to some extent. Very interesting indeed. Thank you all for your comments!
I think it should be pointed out that the Kinsey scale is not meant to determine what your sexuality is. It was developed only to describe past sexual experiences and feelings. It also does not account for people who identify outside of the gender binary, or people with fluid sexual attractions. A quote from an article from the Kinsey institute:
"The scale accounts for sexual activity with and arousal toward women and/or men across one’s lifetime. Kinsey and his colleagues, however, did not intend for this scale to account for individuals’ sexual identity "
redkite20 wrote:
I think it should be pointed out that the Kinsey scale is not meant to determine what your sexuality is. It was developed only to describe past sexual experiences and feelings. It also does not account for people who identify outside of the gender binary, or people with fluid sexual attractions. A quote from an article from the Kinsey institute:
"The scale accounts for sexual activity with and arousal toward women and/or men across one’s lifetime. Kinsey and his colleagues, however, did not intend for this scale to account for individuals’ sexual identity "
Thanks for pointing that out.
The online test (again, I have no idea how reliable an online test found easily on google could be LOL) was not asking about past sexual experiences however, but about sexual tastes and desires – these define one’s identity, and not one’s real life experiences. So if the real Kinsey scale uses the same type of questioning, than I’d say it’s more about the person and less about the facts.
If on the other hand the scale only describes “past sexual experiences”, than today I might be 1, tomorrow I might be 2, in a year I might be 5 and in 5 years I might even be a 0 - which also means the scale itself accounts for me being fluid! What’s the purpose? I already know what my experiences are, I don’t need an ever changing number for that, if I choose to be “scaled” I’d much rather have a number that is constant thru all my lifetime (past and future) and helps me explain who I am rather than what I have done.
I met an old girlfriend from damn nearly thirty years ago recently. She was bisexual then and a lesbian now and she reckons all bisexuals eventually become homosexual. Its not the first time I've heard this said.
I'm not attracted by men at all, but if I haven't cum for a while I have a recurring fantasy about being made to suck a cock and swallow. That desire disappears the instant I cum, though.