Me and my partner have sex with me on top a lot, and i am getting better at it but I find it very hard to get a rythmn going and i get cramp in my legs very quickly. Any advice on how I can take control because normally he let's me try and then takes over when i get tired, but id love to ride him and be able to make him cum all by myself, i know he would love it. Also iv had sex stood up before but didn't have much success, how is it possible! Tried watching porn but still can't get my head around it! X
we find its easier stood up if she is leaning against the wall one leg raised on the bed
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I also have difficulties with the girl on top position, my boyfriend says its probably because I'm quite short! Grinding like Hella suggested is good for me but my boyfriend doesnt seem to get much from it :/
He much prefers the up and down motion. When I do get a good motion going I still dont seem to lift myself enough to make it really pleasurable for him. This may be due to my height and short legs like my bf suggests, I'm not sure!
I find the only way for me to really ride him is either the headboard method or with my hands placed either side of his head and really bounce my ass up and down. Then again the headboard method doesnt always work as my arms dont always reach comfortably without the fear of snapping his penis in half on the way down lol This position works best if he's somewhat propped up by the pillows.
The only way I have found to get a really good motion is to lean forward (either with a headboard or hands by his head) and really bounce. We both enjoy this :) however we have the loudest bed in the world so there is no chance of being discreet!
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Haha, Hella and Lamb.. great advice! Thank you, will certainly be perfecting each chance I get. I'm only 5"1 1/2 so I am also quite short, I never thought that could be the problem. Xxx
I find sex on top much easier, when we're on a sofa, it's easy to grind down, he's right close up to me and i can sway side to side and give a leg a break at a time lol
When Mrs G is ontop we alternate between her Ginding and me doing the up and down it stops her getting tired.
Yeh he normally ends up doing most of the work anyway I just try throw some moves in :) but I do get very bad cramp! I think he likes the thought of me being on top though but he has also said before that he doesnt like to be dominated cause he just wants to f*** my brains out :) x
Well I dont see her being on top as being dominated, selfish maybe coz I can concentrate more on the sensations. I particularly like her very very slowly using the entrance and lips to gently stimulate the end of my penis.
Now that I will have to try..
Lady.G try also rubbing lips and clitoris up and down the shaft prior to penetration
What about trying something like reverse cowgirl? At least you're still on top then =]
My ex used to be pretty good at the teasing thing whilst on top but always ended up with me grabbing her and pounding her to completion, she made me cum I think once in two years whilst on top =/
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Yeh i can't get the hang of reverse cowgirl.. not had a brilliant amount of experience on top apart from my current partner. But like I say I keep trying and am defo getting better.. just wanna be able to say that I fucked him and actually mean fucked him! >:) x
Also try keeping perfectly still looking in his eyes and contracting your lady bits ....it is positively rude
Lady.Gasm.X wrote:
Yeh i can't get the hang of reverse cowgirl.. not had a brilliant amount of experience on top apart from my current partner. But like I say I keep trying and am defo getting better..
It took a while for my wife and me to figure it out, but reverse cowgirl has now become our favourite position. Cramp is still the limiting factor for my wife, but we've been able to reduce that by varying our motions so that I can help for some of the time.
Lady.Gasm.X wrote:
just wanna be able to say that I fucked him and actually mean fucked him! >:) x
That's what my wife likes (although it took her a while to admit it!). Ideally, she'd prefer me not to help at all -- she wants to take me all on her own, at least for a while.
I find lying on top of him and doing him missionary style, so my legs are fairly straight works well to prevent cramp, If you lean forward so his penis is lying pointing at his head rather than at the ceiling, you can move backwards and forwards on it without having to go up high (I hope that makes sense) http://www.menshealth.com/sexpositionmaster/reversemissionary.html
also getting close to the edge of the bed so I can put on foot on the floor. When I'm on top I tend to sit slightly forwards and swivel my hips forward whilst pushing down, then lift up as I swivel them back (more of a canter than a trot to continue the horse analagy) and grip with my PC muscles as I pull away.
I also quite like to put my feet in front of me, lay back on my hands and move that way. It takes a bit of practice to get the hang of, like this but him flat usually http://www.menshealth.com/sexpositionmaster/spider.html
TBH I've always found the best way if you want to feel you've made him come, it to get him pretty damn close with your mouth first, then hop on for the final leg to glory :)
PS for standing up, he needs to learn to bend his knees. My current lover is 6'7 and I'm 5'2 but we manage no problems :D Its the angle of entry that tents to be the hard bit, I tend to stand on one leg and twist my hips sideways a bit for that, whilst he bobs down a bit so he'e entering in an upward motion. I find if I'm too bent in the middle it doesn't go in right, it just stays really shallow and pops out.
I forgot to say the standing up is from behind
lilac_vix wrote:
I also quite like to put my feet in front of me, lay back on my hands and move that way. It takes a bit of practice to get the hang of, like this but him flat usually http://www.menshealth.com/sexpositionmaster/spider.html
I can do this.. but will definately need to do some research on the other techniques.. also PC muscles.. are they your pelvic floor muscles? X
yep :)