Hi everyone.
I am looking for some advice outside of family and friends, who are all involved in this issue. I scrolled through a few forums and I came back to this one, as you are all so lovely and non-judgemental and the advice is always great... so I hope you can help.
To get straight to the point, my OH is bi-polar. A lot of the time, he is fantastically awesome and we just laugh constantly. Other times, is not so peachy.
Since last Saturday, I haven't seen him. Now this may seem fine to some, but I live with him, and he has locked himself in his room (we have our own rooms). This is fairly normal for him when he hits the low parts, however it never gets any easier.
For the most part, I leave him alone, but there are times when nature calls and he does have to leave the cave. If we pass on the stairs, he looks like he is grieving for his lost self. This can last for weeks, and as he has (many years ago) self - harmed in the past, I worry that he will do something awful and I will not know.
I have to watch him drowning in his own depression and I can't save him. It is the most painful thing I have ever experienced. And yet, I feel so selfish for thinking about myself. I blame him sometimes for my own negative thoughts (never out loud), and I wish that he would think about me sometimes. All very illogical thoughts, but I can't seem to stop. I am always happy when he is around so he would never know, as I feel that this would only bring him down more.
So my question is, if any of you have experienced this, what coping mechanisms do you have? Because, on day 6, I am not coping. And this could go on for weeks.
Thank you lovely people. xxx