Ok, so this may take a little explaining so please bear with me!
On another thread I said that it has been 2 years since I last had sex, which does make me feel a bit stupid! But I am starting to wonder if its all me, am I to blame, am I doing something wrong, so I though I would ask for your opinions!
So my last few relationships have been basically sexless! They started out fine, plenty of love, affection and sex, but very quickly turned around! The sex stops first (not for me trying to keep it going) the affection follows quite soon after and then I get sacked, usually for someone else!
Now I am a very open minded, wear my heart on my sleeve and a very sexual kinda person! I find it easy to open up to people! I love everything about sex and am comfortable talking about it but found that people I have been with recently seem very closed off and donât even want to talk about it let alone do it!
I guess I am kind a typical male because I donât like being on my own, Iâve always craved someone to spend my time with and I deeply miss affection and sexual contact with someone! Having said that there is still a part of me that wonders if I am in the wrong or something! So when I was younger and before I met my first real girlfriend I was a typical Essex boy, sleeping around was the norm! I have always felt that sex was just an activity people do together and doesnât necessarily need to be part of a relationship! Even though I crave the love and affection that comes with a relationship, is it wrong of me to still be open to no strings sex?
So am I doing it all wrong, being overly sexual (I donât open with that conversation BTW, just when it feels natural to start it), open and missing the things that I do? Can people tell when you crave things like that?
Oh, and one more thing is my job; so my job makes it almost impossible to meet people the old fashioned way, I have tried online and thatâs where my last few relationships have came from and it kinda scares me that I might stuck in a cycle of bad sexless relationships!
Any one got any ideas where I am going wrong?