am i normal

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ok this is embarrassing but if i dont ask i wont know

i think i am kinda numb inside from what everyone says they feel everything when somthing is inside them i dont really feel much it feels nice have my OH pound away but its never omg i'm going to come unless i get somthing on my clit all my feelings i get from my clit but to come i need to have something inside me

also the rabbit vibs the rabbit ears never seem to sit in the right postion for me does anyone else have this problem is there somthing else i should be trying

please help

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I can't comment of the feeling since I don't have the same equipment as you!

I can tell you that many women simply don't get off from penetration and require clit stim, some girls prefer to give head, others just like rough sex and many more adore receiving oral. As long as it isn't causing a problem it's normal.

As for the rabbit... Well we're all different shapes, by OH has struggles at times with toys being an off size for her, it's nothing to worry about.

You are normal and variation in sensations, preference and physical attributes are all normal if that word even exists.

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kittyb4u wrote:

ok this is embarrassing but if i dont ask i wont know

i think i am kinda numb inside from what everyone says they feel everything when somthing is inside them i dont really feel much it feels nice have my OH pound away but its never omg i'm going to come unless i get somthing on my clit all my feelings i get from my clit but to come i need to have something inside me

also the rabbit vibs the rabbit ears never seem to sit in the right postion for me does anyone else have this problem is there somthing else i should be trying

please help

To be honest with you everyone is different, and everyone reacts differently to certain things.

The same issue is the same for me as it is WandA im a guy, so i wouldn't know, just one thing tho...Are you relaxing enough ?

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Another guy answering here, so do not have the same equipment, but my experience with AH's has been that there is a sensation of fullness, being stretched or penetrated which say with a big toy or a porno star's equipment can tip from full to over-full and so real pain. The real excitement has been more in the penetration, all those nerve endings at the surface near your openings and especially friend clit. It's probably this fine mixture of 'fullness', maybe a duller, somehow deeper bass but nonetheless profound sensation combines with the higher notes of the clit being stimulated that bring you ( and so many others) to that crescendo of climax.

As for how Rabbit A or B 'fit'; well look at us all. We're such a glorious mix of shapes, sizes and proportions that one size fits all is also a marketeers fantasy.

I think you're absolutely normal and the only help you need is to do it (even) more often and enjoy yourself doing it.

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thanks guys it helps

yeah i think i am sometimes more relaxed then other times

yeah i didnt think about the rabbit one size fits all thanks

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Hiya,

Well I do have the 'bits' you do but I think the best thing to say is that absolutely everyone is different, there is no 'normal', what works for me, may not work for you, what works for my friend wouldn't work for me, it's all about experimenting to find what works for you, whatever that may be.

There are loads of women that don't get too much from penetrative sex, but prefer other things, as long as you're happy at the end of the journey, does it matter how you get there?

As for your rabbit, I think there is a fairly common misconception that this is the best toy ever as it's guaranteed to work for everyone but the reality is very different, as you have said, the ears etc don't seem to ever sit properly... When I got my first rabbit years ago I hated it and promptly put it in the drawer and thought sex toys weren't for me, how foolish was I? haha!

Now I realise, thanks to my vast collection that there are so many other toys that work much better for me, and the Rabbit isn't the holy grail of sex toys, well not for me anyway.

Have you tried a bullet, as you say you respond to clit stim, these can be brilliant for either solo play or with your partner and will enable you to stimulate your clit whilst having sex :-)

There are some great ones on this site, I have the Ammunition one, I believe the Tracey Cox one is good, but there are a fair few.

Maybe look around at different toys and trying some?

Good luck with finding what works for you, but don't beat yourself up on the journey, enjoy it, if it doesn't work, move on, try something else...

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lookslikefun wrote:

Another guy answering here, so do not have the same equipment, but my experience with AH's ???

I wish I could read; AH's-wossat??, I'm sure you got from context OH was meant, maybe Freud was playing with my typing fingers..still don't know what I was thinking at that second.External Media

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babes,this is completely normal.i dont get any feeling in there aswell but i come in second when i masturbate(clitoral).i have started lately to gradually insert my fingers in my pussy from time to time and see if i will be lucky to find my G spot,that is if i have any.lol.Lets just take time and explore ourselves more there must be something inside the pussy waiting for us.we just have to discover it.good luck to us.wink

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Please don't worry, as everyone else has said, we are all different and get off on different things!

I am totally clit orientated, i can easily cum from just clit stim, but i have never cum from penetration alone, although i live in hope of that elusive G-spot orgasm!

I also find that the rabbit ears aren't in the right place.

I'm waiting for this http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=13208 to come back into stock to see if the clit stim part is better for me than a rabbit.

Just have fun trying out different vibes to see what suits you best!

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Completely normal. My OH could keep going for hours thrusting away inside me with either his cock or a toy, but if there's no clit stimulation to go with it, I'm never going to orgasm.

If you're having trouble getting the ears in the right place on a rabbit, might be worth looking into this one! http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14777

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thanks so much guys its nice to know i am not alone it really makes me feel better glad to brought it up here its hard to talk about in RL poeple just dont talk about this kind of thing so thanks

hey bumble i have that on my wishlist as well will give it a go

ecksvie i havent seen that one will add to my wishlist and get one when i can

i haveny really tried just with the entrance will have a see how its feels

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I don't think there's any such thing as normal although if there is I'm sure I don't qualify

From my perspective the fun sensitive areas inside me only exist if I'm already really turned on. My clit and my nipples are always really sensitive in a fun way but my insides are more picky!

Like many have so eloquently said before me: we're all different. Finding out what works for you, whilst hit & miss, is part of the fun.

CCW x

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I forgot to mention for some people it takes practice!

Sometimes it requires getting that exact spot, like the G-spot for example. Perhaps have an explore with your partner and see if anything tickles your fancy (yes, I said fancy).

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It took ages to find my G-spot, well the right guy really, and apparently it's really high up so don't get him to stop trying to find it! And try different positions, you may find one that really works for you, doggy tends to be best for me :)

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It definately a practice thing. Mix things up a little bit, find the position best for you, and explore exlore explore. That's a great advice I can give. Know your body don't be ashamed of it, learn to love yourself.

Also, the OH pounding away maybe ask him to ease up a little...

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Sez909 wrote:

It took ages to find my G-spot, well the right guy really, and apparently it's really high up so don't get him to stop trying to find it! And try different positions, you may find one that really works for you, doggy tends to be best for me :)

Sure that's not the A spot? The G is just behind the pubic bone usually... That's where I've found it anyway!

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Hiya! Good advice already so I won't add much more! Normality doesn't exist.

However if you are literally feeling absolutely nothing inside (good or bad or neutral) then just ask your doctor! Not being sensitive enough to come from penetration alone is completely normal, but not feeling anything at all should be checked out

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to be honest i am waiting for a appointment for the gynaecology clinic need to get checked out for endometriosis i so do feel just not very good feeling its hard to explain best way is bottom of you belly is hurting so doggy style is painful which is very horrible because i like it lol any postion but 2 hurts when i went to the doctors they wasnt even going to send me for tests just said i would have to live with it but i kept on at them kinda wishing i do have it then i know i can get treated and it will be better just wish i had did it when i was 18

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kittyb4u wrote:

to be honest i am waiting for a appointment for the gynaecology clinic need to get checked out for endometriosis i so do feel just not very good feeling its hard to explain best way is bottom of you belly is hurting so doggy style is painful which is very horrible because i like it lol any postion but 2 hurts when i went to the doctors they wasnt even going to send me for tests just said i would have to live with it but i kept on at them kinda wishing i do have it then i know i can get treated and it will be better just wish i had did it when i was 18

Endometriosis isn't really curable - they can do some surgery in extreme cases but it doesn't cure it, just treats it, going on the pill can help and having a baby can "cure" it. Knowing about it is good though as you can prevent it getting too bad and causing infertility as it can do if left to get too bad.

Try a search, I'm pretty sure endometriosis has been covered before and vulvodynia has been covered too - vulvodynia isn't what you have, but it's characteristed by pain during sex so there may be some good tips. If you find an endometriosis thread then bump it, because I'm sure there are one or two sufferers or ex sufferers currently using the forums who can add some advice to the mix :)

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Not vulvodynia sorry - vaginismus http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/orgasm-army/sex-talk/174633-vaginismus-any-experiences/

Endometriosis hasn't been covered before suprisingly so feel free to start a new thread on it

Bare in mind though that the OA's advice isn't a substitute for proper medical advice!

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