Jo wrote:
Surely everyone has its own tastes. But I cannot miss noticing that you rach74 and Elle are women and women are wired differently than men (so I think). Women receive and enjoy penetration, vagina or anus is a major or minor detail, depending on the woman concerned. I had a girl who would have explosive orgasms via annal , and a girl who would not allow me to even touch her on the back hole.
For straight men, like myself, I cannot see how and why would I enjoy something up my bum! Homosexuals, sure I understand, but LH has no prospects selling anything butt related to me.
It's interesting that many of us - women, that is - enjoy having things up our bums, or would at least consider the idea, while very few straight men would ever countenance anything along those lines.
That's odd in a way, because our anuses are exactly the same as guys'! But that said, we don't have prostate glands, which as I understand it, is part of male pleasure from anal.
However, a woman's rectum is very near her vagina, and that difference in the wiring, which you allude to, might be part of the reason anal sex feels nice for us. Sometimes, when I'm penetrated anally, I can feel it in my vagina and clitoris - albeit dully and vaguely, and often not at all. I suppose it's pushing through from my rectum. But I'm no anatomist, and this may just be my imagination!
I suppose a more important reason is that, as women, we are used to being penetrated - to having our lover put part of their body inside ours. Psychologically, the switch from vagina to anus is a smaller step than for a guy to contemplate the daunting novelty of being penetrated.
Also, because of the mechanics of "normal sex", the female anus is demystified, and always in the mix, as it were. During the act, it's often exposed and on display. Depending on the position, when I have sex I become quite conscious of my bumhole - I know my lover can see it, and is aware of it. And as it's so close to the regular sexual parts, it requires no great physical or mental leap to bring it into play, sexually. Sometimes it can feel like a very natural progression.
Compare that with the interior of a man's bum - it's much more hidden away, and more disconnected from the act of sex. Not completely, of course, because if you play with his balls, you get very close. But you know what I mean. And I think that might be why anal sex feels for some women more of a viable practice than it does for most men.