My OH says she is not a big fan of porn but will watch it together some times for something different. We’re quite open with each other, our likes and dislikes.
She says she isn’t overly fussed with porn but when watching, without touching her or saying anything, she is really wet. I am confused as she says one thing but body says something else.
Any ideas or experiences with this?
Not at all.
My wife isn’t bothered by porn. Bit like your other half she’ll watch it occasionally. Not like me who watches it all the time
Not at all - OH has no interest
I’m just unsure if she does like or not… says she doesn’t but is clearly really turned on by it so confusing
My OH (male) doesn’t have much, if any interest in porn. I do watch porn, i go through phases of watching lots and then stopping for long periods. I do find that I get very turned on by porn, but it’s rather “superficial”, it’s fine for a quick fix but for a decent orgasm, I need a slower build up. With porn, I get turned on really quickly and just a couple of minutes of touching I’m cumming and that’s it, I don’t feel very satisfied and then I sometimes feel guilty / dirty for watching it. I wonder if your OH has similar feelings?
My OH does watch porn sometimes with me or on her own.She generally likes storylines especially when they have a bit of voyeurism in it and normally gets extremely wet and horny by those ones
Thanks, that sounds like a possibility. It would make sense, maybe she feels like that.
She gets turned on really quickly and then cant keep her hands off me, so maybe she doesn’t want me to think she wants someone else?
She does say she prefers real and something with a story line. She doesn’t like the ones when someone is groaning when not even being touched or groaning when pleasing someone else, looks too fake.
OH hates the ones where they constantly looking at camera as though they are getting directions
Same
It is possible for our bodies to react differently to other parts of the brain. It might be that her body is reacting instinctively but mentally she has some reservations about it. I find there sometimes is a conflict between what my body wants and what the logical part of my brain wants.
It might be, as you said, that she doesn’t want you to think that she wants someone else, but it might be because she doesn’t feel right about watching someone else having sex or it might be the particular content that she’s worried about. Sex is a really personal / private thing and I used to feel like watching other people have sex was wrong on some level. Sometimes I watch things that I would never want to do or see in real life and afterwards my brain says “what was I watching! That’s not right”
Or it could just be that she prefers to fantasise about you rather than someone else? 
It’s not really possible to guess what she means but it’s worth asking her - if you tell her that you’ve noticed how turned on she gets when she watches porn and ask why she says she doesn’t really like it. If you reassure her that you like seeing her getting turned on by porn then maybe this will put her mind at rest a bit if she’s worried about it.
Fantastic advice, I never thought about it like that or in so many different ways, thank you!
As she isn’t a fan of non realistic porn, are there any recommendations from anyone? Not sure where to start.
You can get categories like romantic and recommended by females. Perhaps more realistic
Is this online or are DVDs still on sale these days?
Any particular things she likes? BDSM / romantic / anal / toys …?
Someone suggested Belessa on another thread. It’s a porn site aimed at women (lots of free stuff). There’s lots of choice, not sure it really works for me but it’s worth a look. I think the actors were all a bit too “perfect” for me
I look at all my stuff online. I also show the wife all the difference categories and see if anything takes her fancy
Not sure how to bring up do you want to look online porn lol but I will try and take a look
Any particular sites recommended?