Hi
First post on here so here goes.
Basically, when performing oral on my wife she also enjoys a toy inside her. We have a range of vibrating dildos, but the larger ones only seem to go in to a certain point (6 or so inches) before she is in pain and says no deeper. She has no problem accommodating girthy toys, so it’s more of a depth issue.
As a comparison, I (average size - 6 inches or so) can go balls deep and for the most part (unless I’m at a funny angle or whatever) she has no issues or discomfort.
I know she is turned on when I’m using the toys and I understood that vaginas could normally lengthen to take any size, so am I doing something wrong with the big toys? I slide them in slowly!
Thanks.
Hello and welcome.
It sounds to me more like she enjoys your length and that hits her spot, so why try for deeper with toys? As long as she enjoys it that's all that matters.
I had to educate a previouse boyfriend that when fingering me one or two is better than going elbow deep for me.
Have you tried teasing her in the other direction? So she gets 3 or 4 inches I till she is begging for that bit more of the toy? So in summery don't push it, we all have a limit that we are most comfortable with.
Hello and welcome.
I agree with Fun Louise that I would not push it. While the vagina can lenghten, some women find hitting cervix and the area round it just too uncomfortable. I know from certain angle, it definitely is not really pleasant for me and is bordering hell no.
Also I find it easier to accommodate real penis, than a toy, especially harder toy like a glass dildo, which I love, but not for deep penetration. With deep penetration, they just get slightly uncomfortable for me. But I do not have the same problem with a penis.
As a suggestion, have you tried something like jiggle balls. Maybe even the single rather than double variety?
Be carefull with the jiggle balls . I did read that a woman was using them ,whiler her boyfriend was pleasuring her . She was laying back ,and they somehow popped out , down his throat and nearly choked him
Not sure how true this was ,but I read it in a porn mag ,back in the 70's , so it must be true !!!
I have the same problem.. I find that it's because toys are a lot harder than the real thing. As soon as it hits the cervix it instantly starts putting me on edge and I just dont enjoy it as much. Some times it can be fine taking a longer toy it completely depends. I find if it's use before the time of the month it's normally worse.
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Be carefull with the jiggle balls . I did read that a woman was using them ,whiler her boyfriend was pleasuring her . She was laying back ,and they somehow popped out , down his throat and nearly choked him
Not sure how true this was ,but I read it in a porn mag ,back in the 70's , so it must be true !!!
Really! I've never heard of this before. Most jiggle balls are quite big & can imagine anyone choking on them🙈