Domination advice

Hi just after a bit of advice really from all you sex experts.

My girlfriend really enjoys being dominated so i though i would buy some of the bondage tape and a blindfold as a surprise.

However even thou i love the thought im struggling for inspiration. I havent got a bed with posts so i am thinking of using a chair to restrain her arms and legs. Obviously this gives me good opportunity to give oral but then what?

I dont want to just untie her and have 'normal sex' i would love to continue the domination a bit further.

So any ideas or just similar experiences would be very helpful.

You could get a couple of longer lengths of cord and put them either under the matress or under the whole bed - removes the need for bed posts or bars on the headboard. Then tie her up as you wish!

Ohh... you really need to tease her a damn lot!

You seem to be thinking to just go for her vagina. If you do that, it's not going to excite your girlfriend as much as if you involve every part of her body, as she'd be completely unsure of what's coming next.

So... paddles if she doesn't mind the stings... tickling her with a feather, I would imagine, would be good - especially when she's wearing a blindfold. Nipple clamps. Also, you could also introduce a vibrator as a surprise for her. I can just imagine her hearing the vibrations and wondering what it is and BAM! she's writhing with pleasure. Just some thoughts.

Thanks, good idea going beneath the bed, never thought about that lol.

Once past the foreplay stage how would i continue with the domination but while actually having sex, should i untie her or just change her position?

There are a few options if you're going to tie your girlfriend to a chair. For example, you can bend her over the back of a kitchen chair and tie her wrists to the front legs and ankles to the back. She may find this a bit extreme for a first go though so you may want to go a little easier to start with.

One thing you could try is to blindfold her and bind her wrists in front of her body with a lot of tape remaining then tie the other end to something high like a curtain pole. You can do a lot with your hands now but she'll also be very receptive to what you say now that she can't see what's going on. If you talk closely in to her ear while standing behind her and letting your hands wander you'll be able to talk to her about about the kinds of scenarios that turn her on. You'll probably have an idea of what works for her but you may have a few ideas of your own you want to tell her.

Make sure you have tied the high bit of the tape with a quick release type knot as you can unhook her from the pole and take her to the bed with her wrists still tied and so keeping the bondage thing going for whatever comes next.

Have fun!

Sorry, I don't have any advice on that seeing as though I haven't ever done bondage. I'm only 18...

I just seem to be thinking in terms of professional bondage that you see in porn. Don't think it'd be easily replicated at all... I say change her position. If you're going to do bondage, do it right and don't untie her. Just to keep all that excitement with restraint locked in.

Right now I'm thinking have her hands tied together behind her back and her thigh and leg tied so that her legs are folded (I know, bad description...) so that she basically can't walk until untied. I hope that makes sense. Just another idea that I may be wrong about.

OR... if she's flexible enough... have her hands tied together above her head and her feet tied to her hands. Basically, her groin will be right up in the air and that would call for a little more brutal penetration (again, bad description... I think you know what I mean with 'brutal'). Depends if she feels comfortable in that position or not...

Actually, I suppose I do have some sort of advice, then. Shows how long I spent on this message as two has popped up whilst I was writing it. WELL! Off to the Royal Mail whatever building to pick up my toys hopefully. Been waiting from 9:00 and near 1:00 I got impatient and decided to get food. Come back. Damn... two damn minutes late for that darn delivery. My rant over. I'll rage quietly.

Also, take heed of what Hella said. Just keep, in some way, your girlfriend restrained. I think up against the wall can be classed as restrained as she's unable to get out of the hold.

Lovehoney - Hella wrote:

One point of reference - don't tape her to anything that will tip over. That's how injuries happen.

I personally think that the sexiest way to move from foreplay to sex is to get her up, untie her and just pin her against the wall. Simple, effective and damn hot.

Yes it certainly does lol, we have tried this in the past but the height difference makes it difficult.

Ginger Ninja, i love how you describe things, certainly bought a smile to me face

Lovehoney - Hella wrote:

One point of reference - don't tape her to anything that will tip over. That's how injuries happen.

That's a good point, don't use anything that isn't firmly attached although you could always bolt a ring or two in somewhere where they would be useful. If she hauls them out of the wall you're either doing a hell of a job or you need to get yourselves a safeword.

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depending on how she likes it the first option is good for a starter and then just use a feather or something hard again depending on her preference, make sure she is blindfolded and a good tip is to get an ice cube make sure its wet first otherwise it can cause burning and use it to tease her, gentle touching her nipples, neck, clit etc but only for short burst otherwise shes just gonna freeze :P a good treat as said before would be to get a toy such as a rabbit or bullet etc

have fun xx

I wasn't aware that my descriptions would do that, but you're very welcome.

Ohhh I know exactly what she meant by domination because I love that one too! Tie her up but not too tight because she may feel uncomfortable. Then work your way up from up to down slowly. Kissing a bit forcefully also shows domination. But let her have control over he legs. And when you go down there open her legs in a firm way, she would enjoy that. Then do some teasing but same time looking at her to know what she's enjoying the most. It could make sex even more enjoyable. Well have fun!

Domination isn't just about actions or positions. Add in a fantasy to start. Like a police interragation or an air port search. Suspect her of carrying sex toys and you can bring your respective favourets into it if you wish. It opens up a whole other level of embaresment at having to strip and antisapition if she gets a peep at the feathers and paddle or whatever you yous before you tie her up and blindfold her.

Thanks for all the replys, they were all very helpful.

In the end we used a chair, because of the lack of bed posts, it worked very well. I tied her arms to the arms of the chair which allowed me to go to work lol.

She seemed to really enjoy it and if im honest i did enjoy the whole been in charge feeling. Although i still get the thought of how far can i/should i go because this kind of stuff doesnt come naturally to me. Suppose after a few more experiences i might feel more comfortable.

She's now mentioned she has always had a desire to have sex in the car, so thats tuesday night sorted lol.

Im certainly liking this side to her, we both seem to be becoming more open to new ideas. But she still does seem to still want me to tell her what we are doing and how etc...she really gets off on it.

So anybody experienced car sex before or any other general domination advice would be very welcome

there are many websites google "bondage" and get tips :)

SUSPENSE! Take it slow and build on the suspense!

Tape/tie her hands behind her back. Blindfold her, then put her knees down on a sofa, or even the floor so her ass is all exposed. No need to tie her feet, unless you really want to tease her..

Domination isn't just about tying someone up. Some ideas;

Have her kneel on the floor and beg to suck you.

Have her perform tasks for you on a regular basis- e.g. write a story of her deepest fantasy, orgasm denial.

Have her wear a submissive collar

In doggy style - grab a handful of hair and praise her.

Instruct her to do things to you or impose a rule she must obide by

None of these need be rough-handeling. Just domineering.