Am I the only one that wishes LH had a dating / matchmaking service of some kind? I was seeing someone for a month, all seemed good but he turned out to be a bit of an arse :-(
its so difficult to find someone who is open minded, has a really good sex drive, likes kink; and yet doesn't screw around. So far I keep meeting either the really nice guys who aren't particularly into sex, or the ones who are but feel the need to bed hop.
sorry. I guess I'm just feeling a little jaded. I'm back on the old dating sits but obviously I don't put my sex drive or penchant for kink there or I get loads of messages from the guys that only want sex. The trouble is, I want sex (and a lot of it!) but the rest as well - someone to stay in with, to go out with, who can remain strictly monogamous. I'm beginning to wonder if people like that really exist :-(
It can be hard when it seems all you can find are the bad ones. There's good people out there though. Dating sites can be fantastic tools, but do have their downsides. I got lucky on OKCupid and after a few bad ones met a lass who is amazing and everything I want (thought there's still be rocky bits, but all looking good now), but I know female friends have often found the paid sites better because you get a less of the spammy offensive guys sending "want 2 fuk? ur hot" type messages.
Don't give up. Men are like buses.... You wait ages and then all of a sudden three come at once. Just give it time and then I am sure you will find one or multiple people to date. I found that when I gave up actually looking for someone and just went out to have fun with friends that's even I would actually meet the nicest guys. That's how I met my husband . I didn't want a relationship and told him I just wanted sex . Two months later we where living together . When the right person comes along you will know x x
Like others have said there are still some good people out there and I'm sure you'll find someone worthy of you in time. I had a horrible break up of a long term relationship nearly two years ago and was convinced I didn't want anyone at all after that. It took me about 8-9 months to get over it. In Feb I started seeing my current boyfriend (who I actively resisted at first), but luckily for me he persisted and now I realise how lucky I am. Sometimes things just have a way of finding you :) x
The thing is it takes time to get to know peoples kinks. When I met OH I didn't think he was into kink and toys now look at us! Find a nice guy first and think about sex later, it's very unlikely that you'll find a perfectly compatible person, everyone has to compromise a little
I meet the man I am going to marry on Match last year . I dated a few frogs the ones that were arses said one thing did another , players only wanted on thing and you have to kiss a few frogs to meet Prince Charming and he does exist when I first starting dating I wanted to rekindle the kink I had with my ex that is what I craved but as I started dating weeding out the frogs I found I wanted to be loved again for me and all of me and I truly have found that with my man. But I have also explore kink with him on our journey our way our kink so don't give up relax enjoy getting chatted up but highly recommend paying for a dating site x
Try OK Cupid. Their questionnaires are very far-reaching. Boy are there some racist bigoted puritanical a-holes on there - but there are also some exciting people.
Am I the only one that wishes LH had a dating / matchmaking service of some kind? I was seeing someone for a month, all seemed good but he turned out to be a bit of an arse :-(
its so difficult to find someone who is open minded, has a really good sex drive, likes kink; and yet doesn't screw around. So far I keep meeting either the really nice guys who aren't particularly into sex, or the ones who are but feel the need to bed hop.
sorry. I guess I'm just feeling a little jaded. I'm back on the old dating sits but obviously I don't put my sex drive or penchant for kink there or I get loads of messages from the guys that only want sex. The trouble is, I want sex (and a lot of it!) but the rest as well - someone to stay in with, to go out with, who can remain strictly monogamous. I'm beginning to wonder if people like that really exist :-(
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After coming out of a 4 year relationship after discovering she was cheating, it seems getting back into the 'dating' scene is a massive uphill struggle.
My ex and I used to say that we have both forgotten how to socialise with new people since we were so comfortable with ourselves and our circle of friends!
During my online dating escapades I found it to be the other way. I really struggled to find a guy who didn't JUST want sex. Frustrating when you want to find someone to get to know, and be friends with first.
I did POF for a while, but found OKCupid to be the better one of the two. Yes, there are loads of a-holes on there, and you have to filter through a bunch of idiots before you get to talk to anyone reasonable, but the questionnaire is excellent, and you can answer as many (or as few) as you like.
It's a great way of immediately knowing what the other person is like. The personality breakdown is really great too - it includes things like confidence, world veiws, tidiness, approchability, friendliness, sex drive, adventurousness, etc etc. So you'll get a good idea of how sex-minded someone is before you get chatting.
Anyway, don't dispair! And you know what they say.... It's usually when you're not really looking that someone perfect comes along, so take it easy and maybe focus on making a new friend first? The rest will fall into place in good time :)
Am I the only one that wishes LH had a dating / matchmaking service of some kind? I was seeing someone for a month, all seemed good but he turned out to be a bit of an arse :-(
its so difficult to find someone who is open minded, has a really good sex drive, likes kink; and yet doesn't screw around. So far I keep meeting either the really nice guys who aren't particularly into sex, or the ones who are but feel the need to bed hop.
sorry. I guess I'm just feeling a little jaded. I'm back on the old dating sits but obviously I don't put my sex drive or penchant for kink there or I get loads of messages from the guys that only want sex. The trouble is, I want sex (and a lot of it!) but the rest as well - someone to stay in with, to go out with, who can remain strictly monogamous. I'm beginning to wonder if people like that really exist :-(