Heya, me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months now and we are both so comfortable with one and other when it comes down to sex. But within all of this time the only act in which she finds pleasure is when we have dry sex, absolutely evertyhing else just doesnt feel good for her in the slightest and never results in an orgasm. When she does cum through dry sex its a suprise as there is no build up of sensation and we were both wondering if A: this is common or a problem. And B: is there anything we could do or try to make other acts feel good for her. PS when she has been with other guys or alone it has all been the same. Many thanks in advance ;)
Went to see a professional today and all he said was 'i dont know what to say' :L
By dry sex, do you mean with clothes on? If that's the case it sounds like she can only come from clitoral stimulation, which is totally normal. In fact only about 30% of women can orgasam from penetration, but some woman can teach themselves to come by penetration by getting to know their body better and exploring it more. If it's clitoral stimulation she needs, try and stimulate it while you're having sex. Or you could try using a cock ring to stimulate it. The best one I've found for this is this cock ring, I've tried so many but this one is fantastic for clitoral stimulation.
Clothes on or off just the grinding against my penis does it for her but she is really getting down as this is the only way that she enjoys it and that thought had crossed my mind but as im an early cummer anyway i thought it might just make my blow my load quicker
Its perfectly normal for her, its something you guys need to work towards together. As MrsMcX says a cock ring is a great start, you get the penetration and she gets the clitoral stimulation.
As for being an early cummer it sounds like you could do with training yourself too, my husband used to be an early cummer but thats all changed now, its about working together.
If you find your "blowing your load" too soon in penetrative sex then how about mutual masturbation?
Just as a thought from my perspective...
She doesn't *have* to come every single time you do anything... sex should be as much for the both of you... if she likes grinding up against you why not just do what she likes and then switch over and do what you like afterwards (or the other way round)
Just because it doesn't make her come, doesn't mean she can't "enjoy" it. I enjoy giving my partner blowjobs, because he's enjoying himself not because it's going to give me an orgasm....
If she doesn't feel much from it then you need to work on some stamina so you can both try and achieve what you want in the one session... or take sessions in turns for who gets the attention.
Some people just don't feel much stimulation from penetration - its nothing to do with you and theres nothing wrong with her, it's just a fact.
I only get anything from having both clitoral stimulation and penetration at the same time - it's just how I am. High Maintenance =P I know this as a fact, and if I'm not feeling up to the hardwork I happily pleasure my partner, and he in turn does the same when I desire it.
Mutual work doesn't mean you both have to come at the same time (although it is nice) it's just making sure that you're both *happy* with the outcome. Orgasm or not. Being satisfied doesn't mean you have to be like a pornstar and squirt 20 times in one session, take as mental satisfaction aswel as feeling at a physical level of "good"
Hi the cock ring is a good idea but have u tried simply building her thoughts up a little to get her more excited? Find out if she has any secret fantasy that you could fulfil through a little sexy role play. Maby tease her in to wanting it but hold off until she can't wait any more. You will be surprised how thoughts during sex can increase the organ experience. Simply talking dirty about my wife's desires made her orgasm in positions she used to struggle with. Buy a kinky weekend kit and tease her about it during the week and then all at once fulfill the expectation you have built up during the week.
You could go for a trip on a sensuous journey. Blindfold. And do erotic massage and play on textures and sensations..... Make more of the foreplay to heighten expectation....ie icecubes.... Chocolate.... Feathers... Basically world's your playground..
its the physical act of having my cock or fingers or tonge being used, she just desperately wants to enjoy it but there is no sensation no matter what we do in any position
definitely no stimulation on her clitoris with your tongue either?
Have you tried using toys on her?