Hey guys and girls! Just need a few pointers. I've been with my girlfriend a while now and can't seem to get her to explore in the bedroom. I have tried introducing her to a few ideas, porn, toys and just some light role play but shes having none of it. How can I introduce her to exploring without being a pushy pervert 😂
Not everyone is interested in adding to their sex life. You need to have a conversation with her when both of you have time and are not horny. Ask her why she isn’t interested. It may be due to a misconception, which is something you can work on with her or she may just not want to, and if that’s the case, the more you suggest stuff the more she is going to say no.
That's good advice. We have spoke about it before and she said that she feels uncomfortable trying new things so there must be some intrest. Maybe it's because as you say she has a misconception? I'll ask her and hopefully all goes well. Thanks for the advice 😀
Have you considered allowing/suggesting she is in control?
For example," I love you my dear and for one whole day I shal be your slave, to do with what you wish."
She might start out slow, make me a cup of tea, but progress onto kiss me, undress for me ect. Giving her the power and ability to take things at her own pace might allow her to explore. Also power over another person can be very exciting. All you would need to do is say " yes my love" and do as commanded, this may not come naturally but might pay off in the long run.
Hey Louise, That's a pretty good idea, didn't think of trying that. Usually I prefer to be the one in control, this might actually let her get a taste of what it's like I guess. Appreciating all the ideas guys and girls!
Do you talk about fantasies? Things you'd really love to try. I think maybe letting her come up with the ideas instead of introducing them to her may help. And whatever she comes up with, as long as it's not a limit of yours, of course, be supportive and enjoy it with her. Make trying new things an experience she'd want to repeat. Even if it starts off as something small, like a massage. Don't rush her and always make her feel sexy as hell, especially when she looks nervous or like she might be feeling silly.
Basically, go in her direction and her pace.
Good luck!
Thank you vanilla. She doesn't like to talk about sex at all, it seems to make her uncomfortable. I've shared some fantasy's with her but when it was her turn she felt embarrassed and closed up. I have tried many things to get her to open up in the nicest way possible but even during sex she seems guarded? I think I'll just have to go at her pace and hopefully she will relax a little. Many thanks
A good idea would be doing online sex surveys where they measure yours and your partners kink level. There are some that only give each partner the results on the kink matches. With your girlfriend not feeling comfortable discussing the subject a survey may be the answer here. A couple that spring to mind are mojo upgrade and kink o meter. All the best
A good idea would be doing online sex surveys where they measure yours and your partners kink level. There are some that only give each partner the results on the kink matches. With your girlfriend not feeling comfortable discussing the subject a survey may be the answer here. A couple that spring to mind are mojo upgrade and kink o meter. All the best
This was Bubby and I a few mo the (well years ago if I’m honest) he always had a higher sex drive etc and I was so everything was always lights off and vanilla. I popped on sexy lingerie probably 3 times in our whole time together (almost 17 years). My was due to a traumatic past and bad body imagine. He was always the perfect gent never rushing things etc always being careful when he initiated sex etc. we got into a rut, I was poorly etc and then before we knew it we were basically co-parenting and sharing s house bed. We decided to work on things and I downloaded an app call Kindu. Free app and everyday there is a list of things you can do. You can either select not interested, maybe or love to do it. When both of you have done the ‘pack’ for that day you get to see your matches. If one of you checks no but the other loves it it doesn’t show. If one or both suggest maybe or loves then it matches maybe for both maybes or a maybe and love) or love if both Tick love too. There are 62 days worth that are free and regular celebrations such as national bath day lol etc and I think there are a couple of packs you can buy for like 99p a set (think there is 5 sets) really helped us get talking about sex. That coupled with LH and we are having amazing sex. I mean I generally always had good and multiple (2/3) orgasams as did he mostly (not multiple lol) but it had even got to the point before we stopped having sex of me faking and then not even bothering to do that. Now we’re having sex daily exploring our kinky and I generally have many many multiples (ie average is around 8 😂🙈). I really hope you can help her through it. I think you sound like you really want to help her and that’s good x