Roleplay

Sex Tips & Talk
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Hi;

I am new to the Forum, and I would love to get my OH involved in roleplaying, such as her dressing up in any one of a number of outfits, slave girl, french maid etc, with me in the male equivalent and then seeing how things go.

I know this is a non starter with her as she is just into "normal good sex". We have been lovers for about 18 years now so can't think she will change now.

Have any ladies got any ideas how I can introduce her gently into this?

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Hello! Welcome to the forums jamesg! I wouldn't initially start with costumes. Maybe talk about each others fantasies. That way you can make suggestions but without it being a physical roleplay. You could try build up from there? Xxx

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Thanks for the welcome Wizzie

I have told her about my fantasies, such as her being a slave girl. She occasionally gets annoyed but generally seems to secretly like them, as she gets more turned on when I am talking about them. Its difficult to progress this further however as I only talk to her about them just before sex.

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I had a similar problem with an ex gf of mine. The easiest way i found to introduce her was to do as wizzie suggests and talk about fantasies, and then start to introduce smaller props, a hat, a gun, a cane, a sword whatever. another good way is to find some good fantasy porn on a similar theme (i've often used digital playground's/brad armstrong's stuff for this purpose.) you can then say 'hey wouldn't it be fun if..'

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I think the key is to try to get her to open up about her fantasies. You can always make a joke about her liking a man in uniform etc to keep a light tone to start with. When you're talking about your fantasies, try to keep them mild and if she seems to be enjoying one, turn the heat up. The 'slave girl' fantasy may make her feel like you want to dominate her too much and she may feel uncomfortable giving up so much control even if part of her thinks she would enjoy it. Work it in gradually. You could always get her to pin you down or tie you up (light bondage style) and say 'what are you going to do with me now I'm all yours'. By letting her do it to you, it might make her feel more comfortable when the roles are reversed. The fantasy and eventual role play can then be built around that basis. I hope that makes sense! Xxx