hey guys
sorry i havent replied for a while, thank you for all the advice, support and hugs :-)
things still aren't great but i suppose there better than they were...
ill try catch you up on everything...
when it happened on the friday, i went to his saturday to sort out the savings account, we went upstairs to get away from family members interfering. just ended up crying and hugging eachother. he still had this wall up..though he said he'd been crying, but hasnt shown any emotion to me. he then went to say 'i love...' then his mom barged in and made me leave...?!?
i walked straight out. he followed me downstairs. i went home.
then a few texts later.
we needed to talk, so agreed on dinner, i went there putting on a front, try not to get upset, as soon as i sat down and started talking i broke down, couldnt help it, didnt stop all night...we were there for 3 hours, i did most of the talking, he still barely said anything. he said he didnt know what to say, he said hed been a mess and just crying all the time...and apparently after i left his saturday.he "fell to the floor and couldnt move for over an hour", although some moments it was just asif nothing had happened and we were laughing and joking like we used to, but then it was like he'd realised he'd let his 'barriers' down and they'd immediatly go straight back up. after a while it seemed like he couldnt wait to leave. so we decided to go. he drove me home as i was too upset. all through dinner he held my hand? stroked my hand, kept hugging me?
is it me or mixed signals? no wonder my heads so messed up.
then he said he wouldnt leave till i went inside at home, we then had a long look at eachother as i opened the door and then he walked away.
he said hed text to just chat, see how eachothers days have been, start the friendship. i did stupidly text him just a quick chat about a festival lineup. nothing much. he did text back but like i know it sounds daft and everythings taken out of context over text but it was just sharp, cold.
on the saturday (1 week ago) i found out he'd gone and brought a car with our savings. . . yes, from his half, but we hadnt even divided it or sorted it out. and it had been a week!!
i was fuming, i stupidly let my anger take over and i confronted him. he was cold, heartless, like he couldnt care less. i questioned how he was during dinner and he said he was just 'comforting me' >_< he couldnt understand why i was so upset. he got angry...
he then walked away and i shouted "thats it, walk away, thats all you know what to do" ...
damn that anger.
and stupid me again felt awful, so i text him the next day apologising, we then did talk over text.
it was ok. it just feels like hes being so heartless.
he wants to be friends, yet hes treating me like an enemy.
i shouldnt even give him the friend option.
the only reason i have is because i cant loose him completely.
me typing all this makes him sound like a right nob...but i know he isnt, i know he isnt being himself. he even admits im the only person who knows the real him. and vice versa.
then...to top it all off, yes stupid facebook became involved...to sum it up, at the start of our relationship we had problems which were caused by some slag 'so called friend' of his. im not delfending him but he didnt know what she was up to, she was a sneaky bitch, then he realised and said he didnt want anything to do with her. his other friends agreed what she was like. i never made him choose.
well. as soon as she catches a glimpse that im no longer in the picture, shes straight in there like a fly round shit.
i emailed him those exact words. he replied "not really fussed either way tbh", i replied by saying i knew it would happen, its just a punch in the face blah blah blah, he then replied "i dont want to talk about it, im not talking about this"
he wont talk about anything! then i replied "running away wont do you any favours, your conscionce will catch up with you sooner or later"
i know it sounds like tit for tat. :-/
but yesterday, i just text everything, just explaining, no wonder how hard i try or how much you dont want me to i cant help how i feel, you need to give an explanation or talk so that we can both get closure. he didnt reply. i rang him this morning, we chatted for a bit, it was fine, he said that it needs a bit more time but we'll go to dinner as friends the week after next.
which is......?
flipping valentines....
the time we were sposed to be on a romantic break at a spa in wales.
what to do.
i know im going on but i thought i should keep you updated.
butters x