Have you or your partner ever initiated sex in a weird or random way?
Like for e.g. the other day i just asked my OH if he wanted to play, and you can guess what happened
S
My OH has recently been showing her initative side in this domain.
She decided to allow me a first the other day, asking me to play with her after finishing work whilst still in uniform (it's nothing sexy but I like knowing I made her cum in her uniform, she's got to wear that at work!)
Last night she also snook off to the bedroom earlier than me, telling me she was changing the bedsheets. When I went to see what was taking her so long I found her naked under the fresh sheets with a note on the pillow simply saying 'Play with me?'. Who am I to say no?
In my mind I think there are a million and one ways to initiate sex. I for one struggle with initiation from a male perspective - I mean, I can't just wait under the covers naked, it has a different effect with women than men.
I'm enjoying my OH showing how much she's loving and wanting sex by initating things, and I look forward to the next chance we have.
At the end of the day these initiative thoughts just slip into your mind at random times, just make sure you're not ashamed and just go with them.
J
theMightyBum wrote:
Isn't that the normal way to initiate it...?
Some people wait for the moment to happen or their OH to initiate it.
I know at times in my relationship I have tried to initiate it all day, but it's just that one moment when she doesn't wriggle away and instead kisses you harder that you know it's happening.
Some people aren't as forward as just saying "Wanna play?".
J
theMightyBum wrote:
Interesting :)
I guess my previous OHs have been more blunt than some! Admittedly my experience is limited.
Admittedly so is mine, although what Silently Kinky is asking actually intruiges me.
The concept of my OH initiating things anyway turns me on, but as she finds new and intuitive ways to do so, well the turn on grows too.
I can imagine all sorts of scenarios...
J
She once said "do you want me to caremalise your onions" but sometimes there is no initiation at all, i just have my wicked way, fortunately she has a "tell" I know when she is feeling horny so she goes along with it.
If I'm in the mood, I will go upstairs and put on something sexy - lingerie, stockings, you get the idea - then come down and take him on the sofa :)
Otherwise my tell is what I wear to bed - vest top & cotton pants = not in the mood, or topless with lacy knickers is his green light, LOL.
ahh thats pretty cool lol.
im not exactly the one who normally initiates sex, usually my OH does,
i was just wondering to see how others initiate it.
S
I'm usually quite nervous about initiating, I don't know why, because I can guarantee OH will be up for it. I usually dress up in rude clothing or just give him a cuddle and thrust his head in my boobs, seems to worn quite well haha!
im nervous too. i normally hide naked under the covers waiting for him.
he loves me starting it, i just feel self conscious, but have been losing weight and noticing the difference and so becoming more body confident and i like dominating him sometimes or just starting it off lol
I like straddling over OH just kissing & seeing where it leads too
He says he always knows, apparently i get a bit giddy. But i do different things sometimes i just tell him im horny, or I'll leave the room and just come back naked or in lingerie but i also like just being cuddled up on the sofa kissing and taking it from there.
I just fill out the application form
Ron Burgundy wrote:
I just fill out the application form
Hehe!
Think it depends on knowing your partner and what they like. When my ex-girl used to breathe slowly in my ear.... no Viagra in the world could have the same effect. Strange but true 
I just start kissing him, I read this to find some interesting new ways. Hubby says he'd love me to initiate more but I have confidence issues so I hardly ever do. Xx
I just start kissing him, I read this to find some interesting new ways. Hubby says he'd love me to initiate more but I have confidence issues so I hardly ever do. Xx
If the OH wants it, I usually just get prodded with it and away we go lol. If we're out in public then our code work is that we want a passionate kiss :)
i'll just start playing with him or myself lol