I also lost my sex drive for a bit, for a good year and a half we were lucky if we had sex once every few months.
I was getting the contraceptive jag (to help with my horrendus periods) and it really really killed my libido, aswell as that it made me feel really low and anxious oh and the 2 and a half stone in weight I gained didnt really boost my confidence either !!
My poor hubby, he has an amazingly high sex drive, I felt so guilty. We were newly wed and I just wasnt up for it :( So I choose to stop getting the jag and just deal with the periods. It took a good 8 or 9 months after stopping the jag before I felt like "me" again.
I found what didnt work for me was pre arranged sex e.g, organising a cosy night in with a bottle of wine, hubby telling me what he wanted to do me etc etc. Id start panicking and thinking about it and it just put me off in the end!
What did work for me was just getting used to being intimate again - during our dry period, there wasnt alot of physical contact, so having a kiss and a cuddle or a back massage and even just leaving it at that for a bit, began to wet my appetite.
Hubby was very good at not pressurising me, I told him all my worries, my saggy belly, stretch marks etc etc and he told me he still thought i was very sexy and loved my body etc, he worked on really boosting my confidence. I used to look in the mirror and think eugh!! How on earth could anyone get turned on by me? Slowly but surely I began to accept myself warts and all and believe what my hubby was telling me.
After that I became like a woman posessed!! I couldnt get enough of it and as I became more confident, I wanted more......Thats where Love Honey came into it! I wanted to experiment and feel different senstions and try different things etc etc so I ordered some toys.
The toys really spice things up for me and they also make our play time last longer, some times my hubby is rather quick in coming, especially if hes not had it for a few days, so its good to mix it up a little.
And now I have my sex drive back, I take great pleasure in using my toys when hes not here!