Ok so I have loads of toys in my collection which my Oh loves using on me but I’m starting to think that it would be nice to surprise him with a few for himself to use.. I do the toy shopping for us as I already had quite a collection when we got together and he just left it up to me from then on as it was all new to him at the time. I haven’t got a clue where to even start! I use my mains powered classic wand on him and he does enjoy that, he’s not into anything Anal so wondering if there’s anything else you guys could suggest I get him? I know if I asked him he wouldn’t know what to get anyway as like I say, as far as toys go they have only ever been used on me. Any suggestions very welcome!!
Me and my partner thought the same some time ago. We generally found there are 3 broad types of sex toys for men. Strokers, simulated orifices and anal toys.
Strokers came in various types to some sleeves, some vibrator attachments or things like Tenga eggs. These would allow you to masturbate together as you can give him a fancy handjob or he can break it out when alone. These didn’t really hit it off for us, my partner and I just felt a bit awkward and I didn’t think much of the feeling. That being said I have friends who love Tenga eggs.
Simulated orifices these are things like fleshlights, or dolls. This created a slightly philosophical discussion where i felt creepy using a simulated vagina/anus, yet we have no issues with simulated penses which almost all female toys are designed to be in some degree. I could never get past my personal blocks even though I see nothing wrong with them in principle. Fleshlights even come in porn star mould varieties (some kinky ones even do dragon, Navi, Zombie types)
And anal toys you can probably advise yourself as you have a bum to ;)
I would say it is worth chatting with your partner after doing some brief research on the types available. Purely just to decrease the field of options. Together vs Alone, Simulated vs not. And then just try it out and see without too much pressure not everything works for everyone.
Thankyou! I didn’t realise how little men’s toys there were until now it’s so difficult to decide what he’d like
I agree about the question of having a porn stars name against a fleshlight can bring a bit of awkwardness. However there is one that isn't designed on a vagina/anus and it is brilliant. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=24226 if however you are fussed about the toy having a vagina/anus design check out the Thrust range which is a lower budget version of the fleshlights and may well be a good introduction to see if you both enjoy it.
I'd suggest looking through the range of Cock Rings. There are quite a few that give men a very good erection & resulting orgasm. Look at a few & read the Reviews ??
Hey bunny, I would say that recently Male toys have kinda expoded on the toy scene and it’s crazy how many options we have. A few years ago it was basically a fake vagina which had a tuft or cotton pubes and a plastic Inflatable sex doll which just doesn’t really appeal to most. My suggestion would be to look a little outside the box. Plenty of couples toys are designed to enhance pleasure for both such as cock rings etc. As male toys go the flesh light range is right at the top with the premium toys, this is kind of the rabbit equivalent for a man. The pornstar ones can seem a tad awkward if your the jealous kind but they only have a signature and a slightly mould of the labia on the outside, you really wouldn’t know unless someone said. But they do feel amazing. These are fun as a couple and from past experiences my partner has enjoyed watching me going in and out of a butt or vagina as she controls it all. The Thrust range is also great as these are cheaper and feel just as good.the Abbie one is excellent: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=38252 You can also get other strokers or try the “blow yo” range which are great to give oral and use at the same time. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/brands/blowyo/ Outside of the box you can possible restrain him with rope or cuffs, get some sexy underwear and costumes as Males are very visual in terms of sex. Or you can use a small bullet vibe on the tip of his penis as this feels amazing. Just a few things you can try and I’m sure loads of others have suggestions. The flashlight range is excellent Though and the Riley Reid ones are hugely popular.
Thankyou I will look at them now, I don’t mind about having a porn stars name or anything on them doesn’t bother me in the slightest it’s a toy at the end of the day ☺️ Just want to treat him to something Thankyou for all the options looks like my night is sorted reading reviews haha
Try him with a penis enlarger it really gets his blood flowing.
Thrust Sophia is my go to toy but only used solo. She has used a couple of Fleshlights on me and enjoyed doing so - as did I on the receiving end. Good luck.
And I forgot about the penis sleeves we have, they get used a lot  The three extra inches https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=32919 is a good one, yes it is big but always gives a huge orgasm.
I've never had much luck with male toys, though there's a recent Lovehoney blog about them you may find useful -
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2018/07/18/what-sex-toy-should-i-buy-my-boyfriend/
For me i like vibrating toys, and as you have said he likes your mains powered wand so you cant go wrong with something that vibrates like a cockring.
nigram wrote:
I'd suggest looking through the range of Cock Rings. There are quite a few that give men a very good erection & resulting orgasm. Look at a few & read the Reviews ??
I would second this, you can even get ones that give you DP though he's missing out greatly with no anal on him but if thats what he wants thats fine.
I am in a similar situation. My partner is more than up for using toys but leaves the choice to me!
When it comes to what he's into, anything anal is a big no no, and he really doesn't like the idea of male masturbators with a closed end! I feel like I'm not left with many options, just more of the same as in a different kind of stroker to what we already have which feels a bit boring!
so far I've bought the following products for him, I'll put them in order most liked to least liked
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=39326 he really loved this one, it worked a dream! You can also take the bullet out and use it separately for precise stimulation
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37544 this one was obviously purchased for both of us but I got a very good response from him with this when used mostly on his perineum and balls but a little on the shaft all during a blowjob.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=36140 this one is simply but adds a bit of fun and I'm told the textures feel really nice particularly the ribbed side.
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=5276 this toy worked for him but in comparison to the others finds itself at the bottom of the list
Hope this helps😁
teacake wrote:
For me i like vibrating toys, and as you have said he likes your mains powered wand so you cant go wrong with something that vibrates like a cockring.
Forgot to say as you have a wand then getting the Hummer attachment would be good, I have just got myself the Hummer but cant say how good it is yet as i have not been able to use it yet, but reviews all point to it being good.
Also when it comes to vibrating toys i think the one Cinderella has linked would also be good to try the GLUVR, This will be my next toy i will be trying.
Cinderella69 wrote:
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37544 this one was obviously purchased for both of us but I got a very good response from him with this when used mostly on his perineum and balls but a little on the shaft all during a blowjob.
I was going to ask you how you got on with it. 🙂 Is it a versatile as you'd hoped?
(and I'm loving your paragraphs, by the way 👍😉)
teacake wrote:
teacake wrote:
For me i like vibrating toys, and as you have said he likes your mains powered wand so you cant go wrong with something that vibrates like a cockring.
Forgot to say as you have a wand then getting the Hummer attachment would be good, I have just got myself the Hummer but cant say how good it is yet as i have not been able to use it yet, but reviews all point to it being good.
Also when it comes to vibrating toys i think the one Cinderella has linked would also be good to try the GLUVR, This will be my next toy i will be trying.
I forgot about the hummer attachment, we don't have a wand ourselves so it slipped my mind.
We've only just purchased the Gluvr so haven't given it a good work out yet, but going off first impressions you will not be disappointed! Let's just say backs were arched and sheet were grabbed 😉
Thankyou everyone, I’m going to buy him a vibrating cock ring to start off with and go from there, I think the no anal thing is just a bit of a complex about his masculinity but that’s on him not me.. he’s deffo missing out though 😋😂 also looking at the penis extenders as I think that would be right up his street
Ian Chimp wrote:
Cinderella69 wrote:
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=37544 this one was obviously purchased for both of us but I got a very good response from him with this when used mostly on his perineum and balls but a little on the shaft all during a blowjob.
I was going to ask you how you got on with it. 🙂 Is it a versatile as you'd hoped?
(and I'm loving your paragraphs, by the way 👍😉)
I love it! It is very versatile indeed!! It does exactly what I'd hoped and more! Unfortunately my partner isn't keen on how the vibrating makes his fingers feel! 😑 So it looks like it may be a solo toy when I'm using it, which has put a bit of a downer on it. All in all though it is my favourite toy at the moment.
Haha me too, it makes things look so much better and easier to read! Thanks again for helping me sort that!