I always shave, much prefer smooth and tidy on both myself and others. And add a little lube and it's becomes VERY slippery!
I shave but correct me if I am wrong, but doesn’t the hair have to grow back at least 1/4" before a waxing follow up and going through all the same discomfort yet again? IPL laser is an option but only for darker hair, takes time, and costs $$$ to buy. I am a seasonally bare guy so just do the Gillette thing.
Both trimmed and tidy, but not shaved 
I tried one of the main brands of hair removal lotions only to end up looking like I had measles for about a week and without any hair loss. Not a nice experience. It apparently works for a few others but not for me.