My only problem with this woman - and this gets really annoying - is the fact that she tries to brainwash us to have a baby.
Both my man and I don't want children. We are indeed married since 2005, but we have an 'open' relationship, since we both travel a lot. A baby would not allow us to practice our free lifestyle.
If her words are merely washing over you & having no impact then I'd say you may just have to take on board the 'smile & nod' methodology. Have you explained to her that neither of you see babies in your immediate future?
Oh yes. Millions of times. She just groans and moand that we are getting old. For God sake, we are only 32.
Urgh I guess sometimes it's hard for people to see things from another's perspective. She may find the idea (particularly yours, being the woman) of not wanting children totally alien. But I know how frustrating it must be. I suppose for now all you can do is smile & nod & ignore her as best you can. And hope that one day she'll lose interest & leave you be. She should be happy that you're both happy!
Certainly yes. This is what we do. But every time she visits she mentions it. Then again, she hates our lifestyle and the fact that I have a career and I do so many trips abroad. Some women are stuck in the 19th century. Oh well. We cannot please anyone I suppose.
Mine insists on refering to me as Russell!
My brother in law!
It would be worse to have children when the time isnt right. Nothing worse than bringing children into this world when they are not wanted.
Do what is right for you and it does sound to me like she needs your husband to ask her in no uncertain words to get off your case!!
Dee_licious333 wrote:
It would be worse to have children when the time isnt right. Nothing worse than bringing children into this world when they are not wanted.
Do what is right for you and it does sound to me like she needs your husband to ask her in no uncertain words to get off your case!!
My thoughts exactly.
If you bother trying to get her to see your point of view, try and explain its more responsible of you to put this off bearing in mind your lifestyles and attitudes as things stand although personally I dont think most people can ever say never to having kids one day. If that day comes I think like most people you'll probably end up adapting your life to suit
Mothers in law should be sent on to a military live firing range as target practice. Fact.
My oh's mum (not married so not the inlaw :L) is a demon! she does actually look like the joker if she puts make up on! but shes so false when im around it hurts! she physically abused him till he moved out at 17, even whilst he was crippled in pain after having his kidney out, she was an alcholic when when he was really young so she was too drunk to be a mum. NOW if im there she'd drop tools n run to see to me n him! when we first got together he stated she would never be at his wedding, now shes in my house every Sunday!
But my mums the opposite, yep shes no angel but she takes us to the pub helps when she can and her only demand is no granchildren cause shes too young :L! and she took us in when our old landlord's partner decided he didnt want us there anymore, only had to buy our food.
Its the difference in parenting techniques, orgasmatrons mum inlaw just thinks kids are the next step and probably came from the genaration that women didnt really have high flyer jobs in... Simples!
Perhaps the outlaw is in desparate need of grandchildren
How bad can a mother in law, I am sure they not that bad! 
kinkycop wrote:
How bad can a mother in law, I am sure they not that bad!
Would you like to borrow mine for a few days?
Manipulative, specialises in emotional blackmail and I was never good enough for her little boy.
Could quite happily bury her under the patio but she would leave bumps 
xGGx
ooh I didn't know mother-in-laws were that bad...
is that way my dad can't find a mother-in-law birthday cards...
Just been googling looks like lots of people complain their mother-in-law makes them depressed and is very obsessive!!! 
I've got this to come too!! I am staying single... If I do get married etc mother-in-law is not going to have a grandchild until I am in my 30s she be wait 15years!!! 
we lost my wifes mother one year ago on 21st Sept for her very few faults and massive plus points we both miss her..Thankfully we had a great relationship based on we both wanted the best for her daughter my wife. I believe she respected me as a man I certainly respected her as a mother.
My partner's mum is amazing! I love her to bits. She's mega supportive and has always been welcoming to me :)
shellyboo wrote:
My partner's mum is amazing! I love her to bits. She's mega supportive and has always been welcoming to me :)
I am sure my wife would say the same, myself and my wife were both the babies in our respective families, there never was any fight or competition just "get on with your lives and I\we will help you as much as we are able.
gunther wrote:
shellyboo wrote:
My partner's mum is amazing! I love her to bits. She's mega supportive and has always been welcoming to me :)
I am sure my wife would say the same, myself and my wife were both the babies in our respective families, there never was any fight or competition just "get on with your lives and I\we will help you as much as we are able.
Yeah, same with us. It's so lovely to know we have her backup!
shellyboo wrote:
gunther wrote:
shellyboo wrote:
My partner's mum is amazing! I love her to bits. She's mega supportive and has always been welcoming to me :)
I am sure my wife would say the same, myself and my wife were both the babies in our respective families, there never was any fight or competition just "get on with your lives and I\we will help you as much as we are able.
Yeah, same with us. It's so lovely to know we have her backup!
I never ever got the "mother in law" thing she was the mother of my wife. Of course she has an interest in what we are doing and has a complete vested interest in what I will, do can do, plan to do with her daughter. After a few years she learned to respect me as a man that would do my best for her child, you cannot do more than that.
My mother and father in law are brilliant and even at their age, well into their 70's they still go sailing, cycling and using their motorbikes. I really hope I am as active as them when I get to their age.. puts me to shame!!