I'm looking for something new to try, something new to work on and challenge me. My usual is a dildo or vibrator along with a bullet and it's reliable, gets me there easily but is getting a little boring. I also regular play with anal toys, plugs dildos and beads. I have electro stim toys but don't use that that often.
I don't have a partner so options for restraint/sensation or impact play are minimal. I also don't really feel the need to go bigger, anally or otherwise.
I thinking maybe that since I always rely on additional clit stimulation my next challenge could be to work on orgasm from penetration alone but I wondered if my beautiful friends here had any suggestions or ideas to give me something to work towards. My only other idea was to work on using my own hands rather than a toy.
How about a Fun Factory Stronic? I have the Stronic G and love it (hoping to write the review in the next couple weeks, I’m rather behind!!). The lack of vibration threw me to start with (maybe because I’m not really a dildo person) but now it really works for me. They are pricy so if that’s the issue, maybe a thrusting toy? Generally G Spots like press more than vibration so movement is good. That or a toy with a “come hither” style motion like the Lelo Mona Wave or Ina Wave (and I think there is a new Lovehoney one that’s the same motion?)
Mixing it up by using your hands is a good idea, especially for clit stimulation while using a toy on the G Spot. Vibrators on the clit can overpower the sensation to the G spot, especially if you are used to have clit orgasms
My current favourite toy is the Fun Factory Volta. The two tongues are great for clit stimulation but also feeling amazing on the labia, nipples and even the anus.
Also, have you considered nipple stimulation either by itself or coupled with something (although I do realise you only have some many hands lol)
If you are looking for a simple change, maybe consider a different lube? Maybe a sensation one (like tingling or warming), or just a change in type. So if you use a standard water base, maybe use a silky one or a thicker one.
Thank you, some interesting ideas there. I have the fun factory bi rabbit style thrusting toy but I found the type of silicone they use way too 'draggy' even with plenty lube. Maybe I should try again though or have a look for a different thrusting or perhaps warming vibe, that's something I haven't tried. The lelo wave has actually been on my wishlist for a long time but a bit pricey, might play around with some deals though. I actually use different lubes often, including warming ones. I do have nipple clamps and clit clamps I haven't explored much might be time to dig them out. Thanks for the ideas.
Thanks Alicia some more excellent ideas. You are right I don't like using my hands and I think I would like to work on that. I also like the restraints ideas and will read your guidance properly on detail later to gery head it! On your other points I am actually in a better place now, I am going to therapy and although actually feel a bit confident in eventually finding a romantic relationship I am working of building more and better other relationships and with myself, both as a path to being ready for a relationship but also not focusing on it as a sole source of happiness. It's hard work but having an effect, I'm sure you relate to some of that. Thanks as always for your input.
Amy , hello from a self pleasure specialist male . The largest sex organ is your brain . What gets it going can vary day to day . Myself , I use fantasies or fond memories often . Something that gets me going is shooting photos or videos . I stage myself and play with lighting and angles for best shot . Imagining I will be sending them out . I also found that a very lite touch caressing my body , epecially my nipples and hips help me . Watching myself on the 65" TV playing with toys can get me wound up . Speaking of tying yourself up , see one of my pictures . Not actually tied up , but photo looks like it . Anyway , half the fun is figuring out what your barin will find most arousing and going with it . Happy trails !
Amy, a little bit late with my reply I know, sorry, I just came across your post. I’m not sure I can advise you about new toys, techniques or anything but as I am a life time solo practitioner I just thought I could tell you about a couple of things that occasionally work for me. As I share the house with another family member most of the time my playtime has to be after lights out and even then I have to refrain from making any sort of noise. Very occasionally I do have the opportunity for some fun during the daylight hours, I find it feels so much more naughty then and get more excited than usual, plus being able to vocalise somewhat turns me on some more. The other thing is that solo play has become a bit predictable for me, I have set evenings when I know I will be indulging and it sometimes can feel like a bit of a routine. Now and then I will “surprise” myself, if that’s at all possible, lol! and launch into an unscheduled playtime even if I’m too tired or not really in the mood. These sessions often turn out to be some of the best ones. So, all I am thinking is maybe now and again enjoy a session at an irregular time or try and surprise yourself with a spontaneous unplanned playtime. Maybe you already do these things in which case it’s back to the drawing board for me, I don’t have much (any) experience in womanly ways. Good luck!
10spdee - thank you for taking the time to reply, also a 'life time' soloist here. Although I am lucky enough (in this sense anyway) to live alone I too tend to stick to a predictable routine, however when the desire has taken me at an 'unplanned' time I do go with it and you are right when you say these are usually some of the best times (in terms of satisfying a need anyway)
Truth be told I am probably just being lazy, I have a huge variety of toys etc but I've stopped putting the effort into experimenting and practicing and even into building on the beginnings of feeling like playing. I used to be excited to experiment and if I wasn't in the mood would purposely read or watch something I knew would get me in the mood. I guess I've sort of switched from just doing it for the fun of it to mostly just satisfying a need when it happens to occur. I need to experiment with some of those less used toys and not keep going with what I know will work quickly.
Amy, revisiting some of your less used toys seems like the way to go. Maybe something that you have previously discounted or not enjoyed too much may just hit the spot, so to speak. Goodness knows, they are sometimes just too expensive to leave unused. Also I think we all go through periods of downtime and disinterest. I myself have been at a low ebb for a number of weeks and have refrained from any solo practices, maybe due to other influences or more likely a bit of boredom. But things are looking up (pun intended) and I am feeling a bit more invigorated after a spot of abstinence. Wishing you fun times ahead!
I spent my teenage years and most of my 20s using my fingers but since discovering men and toys I find it really hard to go back to using fingers - I'd be interested to hear how it works the other way round if you decide to try it!
It is full of surprises and a great solo toy. I've reviewed it. I usually go for a bullet and a vibrator/dildo combo, but this Rabbit is fun and effective.
Would any kind of erotic literature / photography / female friendly porn be worth considering?
If you've already got lots of toys for solo play then I'm guessing you have glass and steel - if not, try them, and if so remember that they can be used at different temperatures, they are waterproof and can be used with all kinds of lube - sometimes even something as simple as trying a different lube can give things a boost, especially if it is on the luxurious end rather than the everyday.
Also, Amy, dress up if you see something you like. Lingerie is very personal and not just there for couples - it can be a great confdence boost for the wearer. I was a late starter and buying lingerie certainly helped me back in the day.
Amy have you considered this https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=39652 it’s really good. It’s heavy but not too big, and it rests it’s weight perfectly on your g spot. If the sensation is enough you might not need clit stimulation at all. Might be worth a try.
Hi fun louise! I do already have that one, I like the weight of it but find it (and steel toys) a bit smooth recently (I enjoy realistic toys) I am planning on revisiting these and some of my glass toys though as I haven’t played about with weight for some time. I hadn’t played for at least a week or so before and now time of the month so hoping also a break will have me desperate again!