Scoob, for me, I resent the idea that once you're married / engaged / in a long-term relationship, you're never supposed to be attracted to someone new (and go through with it). I think that's wrong, limiting and robs people of some awesome experiences. Life is for living.
Comparing partners is silly because it's a different ballgame. Sex with hubby 2-3 times a week amounts to 100 times a year. Sex with someone else amounts at best to a couple of times a year. How the fuck do you compare that? Then again I was never interested in attachment or very close polyamorous relationships with others - I think those fantasies are more common with cheating partners than in open relationships.
I'm lucky in that I have a bunch of close friends who are anarchists and they don't really place much emphasis on monogamy (despite some of them being in monogamous relationships). So we can talk easily about different types of relationships without the WTF? facial expression some other people have.
The way I see it, I'm happy if my friends are happy. I don't feel the need to understand their motivation and they feel the same about me.
Just out of curiosity, is this a sexual thing where you craved more/better sex and if so how is it working out? Or is it more about trying something different? How are others compared to your partner? Congrats on having a very strong relationship and hopefully it continues to work out well for you both!
I do have a fairly high sex drive and my OH works alot so we don't a way see loads if each other some weeks but I have never in the past had an issue with that and as most people would do, I'd just have a solo session. It's not about me not getting enough sex or our sex being bad because it never has been in fairness.
It's more about the primal desire if being attracted to more than just one person and now I am able to explore those attractions knowing I'm not damaging my relationship in the process.
I think actually lots if monogamous people experience the same thing but instead of addressing it as a couple many go behind their partners back and cheat. They may well be in love with their partner but they are simply attracted to others aswell.
As for fantasies, yes I think I am able to fulfil some of my fantasies. Some smaller ones to begin with for example sex in a car. One of my biggest which will be to experience another woman as part of a MFF threesome which is goung to happen in the near future.
Just out of curiosity, is this a sexual thing where you craved more/better sex and if so how is it working out? Or is it more about trying something different? How are others compared to your partner?
Congrats on having a very strong relationship and hopefully it continues to work out well for you both!
I do have a fairly high sex drive and my OH works alot so we don't a way see loads if each other some weeks but I have never in the past had an issue with that and as most people would do, I'd just have a solo session. It's not about me not getting enough sex or our sex being bad because it never has been in fairness. It's more about the primal desire if being attracted to more than just one person and now I am able to explore those attractions knowing I'm not damaging my relationship in the process. I think actually lots if monogamous people experience the same thing but instead of addressing it as a couple many go behind their partners back and cheat. They may well be in love with their partner but they are simply attracted to others aswell. As for fantasies, yes I think I am able to fulfil some of my fantasies. Some smaller ones to begin with for example sex in a car. One of my biggest which will be to experience another woman as part of a MFF threesome which is goung to happen in the near future.
You'll have to update on the MFF, would be interested to see how that goes. I think your fanatasy of being a high class escort for a one off is a major turn on for most, good luck with it all
I don't think anyone else has a right to judge, this is about you and your partner.
If this is right for you and you're both happy with an open relationship then that's awesome.
You said your relationship is benefiting from being open and are enjoying each other more so it's win win for you.. Sod what anyone else thinks it's not their life.