Hey all,
I was at work today with a trashy magazine that one of my fellow staff members left behind, one of those women's magazines. In it was a letter section in which someone had written about a previous article.
Since I could not read the article itself but only got the gist of it, I dont know the full details, but the description of it left me in quite some shock.
The letter described the article about a woman who discovered her husband was very much into porn. Upon her discovery, she became very disturbed, worrying that he was addicted, if he was into porn then would he stop finding her attractive if she got pregnant and later in life, what if the children found it on the computer and so on. She's very distressed. Apparently the couple have gone through conselling for this and they're coming through it.
I'm glad they're working through their differences.
However, it might just be me having an open view on sex as I imagine most other OA members must, but I was shocked by the close mindedness of this woman. I was saddened that she thought her husband liking porn meant he would not find her attractive, or that he was not responsible enough to keep this stuff hidden away from children (I'm not sure if they had children or if they were planning to, but the point still stands). I can understand she might have been a bit shocked at first, but I honestly thought that it was over the top that she needed counselling for it. I hated her assumption that her husband watching porn meant that he was automatically some kind of sexual predator with no sense of morals or responsibility and he only wanted his wife for the sex.
I dont watch porn, it turns me off more than it turns me on, but I found the close mindedness and assumptions of this woman quite saddening. Admittedly, it may have been better if some kind of boundaries or agreement were made beforehand so she didnt find out this way, but still, I was almost offended by her reaction.
Do others agree?
Discuss :)