Ok so found I have a really adventurous fwb who is willing to try just about anything once and I plucked up the courage to ask him if he knew anything about prostate massage and would he be willing to let me try it on him. He said he'd give it a go. I'm up for it as I want to do something purely for his pleasure plus I appreciate it is potentially a lot of power in my hands so to speak.
So while I have an idea of how to go about it do any male members who've tried it, or even are aficionados, have any tips or advice on how to make it a good experience?
Just dabbling at the moment, but one thing is for sure. The prostrate is much like the female pleasure spots. It needs to be warmed up with some foreplay. Get him in the mindset first.
A previous gf introduced me to male anal fun. We were shopping at Lakeside one day and she turned to me with a twinkle in her eye and told me she had plans when we got home. I knew EXACTLY what she intended, and when we got home she tied my hands to the bed head and put a vibrator up there. Within 2 minutes I had the most incredible orgasm (mine are normally really quite dull) and then I couldn't walk for a while.
Sorry was supposed to be more on that post but something happened.
Anyway, as I was saying. Porn is normally a terrible place to get examples of sexual practice but if you search for "verified amateur prostate massage" on Pornhub you will get a lot of videos of real people(as opposed to actors/performers) getting their kicks off and can give you an idea what to expect and try.
Also check out some male anatomy diagrams so you have an understanding of what is what and where to find it!
And finally the prostate is highly sensitive to pressure and an orgasm that combines both prostate stimulation and penis stimulation is epic! But. . . . The prostate is not the only focus for anal on a man, general all around stimulation including depth, girth, and also stroking in and out can be very pleasurable even without focusing directly on the prostate.
and finally, go a bit wild with the lube back there, consider getting a lube launcher or similar so you can put it where us needed, inside, less messy that way too.
Thanks for the advice so far. I have read a bit into it and think while I'd love to see how a vibrator would do for him, me having slim fingers is a bit less of a concern for him to start with to find out if he enjoys it and take it from there before buying anything for it.
I'm just thrilled he's so up for it as it was a big risk to ask him and as we'd been sharing more of what we've thought about I felt confident to ask then. Hopefully it will encourage him to open up a bit with what he'd like to try on me too!
I find it hard to have the spot hit with a vibrator or massager , maybe just the way i'm made . Fingers do the job for me , can even do it to myself with a bit of contorting :)
Feels great when the fluid starts to drip from the end of my penis !
Thanks Alicia4Ever! Some great advice and have ordered some anal lube to make things easier. I went for a plain one as I think I can get him to relax with other foreplay.
My ex-gf used to do this for me and I can vouch for it feeling amazing. Without too much repeating of all the usual about relaxed / lubricant, etc, I used to find that moderate rubbing from my back towards my front over the prostate from her inserted finger, whilst she used her other hand to masturbate me was the best feeling. Make sure there are no hang-ups about cleanliness so sort that out first. He will be aware of that sort of thing as well as you, so remove it as distraction before starting. If my ex-gf was using her mouth to suck me as well, even better. Lots of lubricant, moderate prostate stroking from back to tummy, steady rythmic full-length hand or mouth strokes on his penis, some reassuring hot words from you to show you're enjoying it too... neither of you will regret it. Match the moderate prostate stroke from back towards tummy with the down-stroke on his penis with your hand or mouth, and that's what felt best for me. I don't tend to find prostate massage on its own makes me cum, although I know some men can do this. If you both really get into it, suggest a bit of tying him up with his ankles spread and his hands above his head. The above, coupled with the lack of control he has will make it even better.
I presume he does since he admitted he read about the pleasurable side of the prostate and I did get a douche from the Lovehoney if he feels he needs it but it was bought more for my use for my own anal play; I know clean thoroughly if we're sharing stuff. I might leave tying him up out for the first try but an idea if he enjoys it and wants to try it again.
Oh some great tips here! My OH has given me the green light to try some p-spot play but I'm too nervous so far!! 