i think it’s a shame we can’t be as open everywhere in our lives, with our own families…but dictated rules of decency sometimes interfere too much. and at present i am too selfish to leave… some will be back as i fade out i’m sure.
i’m sorry for those i am the cause of staying away cos it’s too obvious who i am irl. i can’t help that. it’s not selfish to want my turn… pink says so
bit i do feel guilty if that counts for anything
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Im glad things are happening and in a positive way too. Having been a victim of DV from my previous marriage I can empathise with the feelings etc.
Dont back down and keep moving forward.
You have friends here who support you no matter what
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I don’t why this irritates me but it does and that’s badly worded or written demonstration placards. Some of them look like someones ripped the side off a cardboard box and scrawled on it with a feeble black marker pen! You can barely read some of them and the worst ones are the ones where they’ve clearly run out of space and have had to make the letters smaller towards the edge of the cardboard in a bid to make it fit! 
I know it’s a minor rant and there’s people with real problems out there but I just wanted to get that off my chest…and now I feel better 
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People who think they are hilarious. My boss will make a sarcastic comment or retort and laughs at himself. Annoying and embarressing he genuinely isnt a funny man. 
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I like it when people insist they have a great sense of humour. 
If you have to tell people because you can’t show them, then you probably haven’t.
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@Ian_Chimp agreed. Also people who say “I’m always really positive” are often really negative. Hmm
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Im sick of double standards,be it work,life or online.
The same rules apply to everyone not a few who can get away with breaches and others punished.
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If it’s here you should have a chat with @Lovehoney_Brenna. 
If you flag one of her posts as ‘something else’ you can include a brief message explaining what you want to talk about, and (when she replies) it starts a private topic between you and her where you can go into a bit more detail.
Me too, if they’re so passionate about their cause, the least they can do is get the gramnar and spelling rihgt! 
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I’m so glad it’s not just me!
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I’m not sure if I’m missing posts or not, such things as tester items and things like that, it’s all become a bit confusing lol
You can find all the Secret Tester posts in the new Testers category. There’s only one live one at the moment (it’s marked with a 
).
The Review Guide has had a makeover too, and there are a couple of tips in there on how to set notifications up so you never miss a new one.
And there’s a new Tester List Update topic too, which you can set to Watching (which means you’ll get a notification every time it’s updated )
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Ugh. Having a bit of a rough evening and this’ll be a long post. Not sure if anyone remembers but a while ago I posted about my housemates odd behaviour and I got some great advice and replies. It’s escalated a little.
In short, he has an issue with me inviting any men round the house, especially my OH.
It was my birthday 3 weeks ago and my OH stayed for 3 nights in the 10 days I was off work. Not consecutive, not during the day, just at night because our plans for the days before/after were centred around my area (my OH lives 45 mins away). I saw family and friends separately throughout the week and it made sense to stay in my area.
I want to note, when my OH is here, there is no noise, we spend most time in my bedroom, we have no tv in my room so no disturbance in that way, we don’t even have sex or joke around… just out of respect.
Within literally 20 minutes of my OH arriving the first night I received a text from my housemate threatening to leave, saying he’s contacted our landlord (which I’ve discovered he never did).
The second night, within an hour of OH and I arriving home after spending a couple of days away, I was messaged with “considering he’s staying again, he can help with bills this month” and later said he’d only be paying 1/3 rather than his normal 1/2.
The third evening he messaged me saying I was “taking the piss” and went on a long rant about how me having my OH here is not respectful. I invited him to talk to me in person (nothing gets discussed face to face) but he wouldn’t follow it up.
Anyway, today is the day for bills and things to be paid. Stupidly, all the utilities are in my name and he pays me his half and I get them paid off. I sent him the metre readings, he asked for proof, I gave them to him and he blamed the ever so slightly high electric bill on my OH. He threatened me with only paying 1/3 but now it’s come to it I’m not receiving any money whatsoever. I have no leg to stand on because they’re in my name, and the only bill he pays is his rent directly to our landlord which he’s probably paid. Keeping landlord sweet but using the utilities to threaten me.
I’m angry, frustrated, I’ve ugly cried on FaceTime to my mum and have spoken and vented to my best friend. Really not how I planned my evening.
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Oh honey, that sounds so toxic. I think you need to speak to your landlord about it and maybe get the utilities put in joint names or an amendment/addendum to the tenancy agreement regarding bills. Would something like that be possible?
Sending hugs
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He’s definitely in need of your OH having a quiet word with him, as i suggested before. He’s obviously a coward as he won’t face you in person. Maybe get in touch with citizens advice bureau regarding the utility bill? Also a word with the landlord? I’m guessing there is no clause banning girlfriend/boyfriend stop overs? Don’t let this cowardly bully upset you or dictate your guests. We’re here for you! 
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@MsSubExperimenter - I’ve done my best to avoid bringing any of this to my landlord (he’s only recently had the all clear from leukaemia and I feel terrible putting any stress on him) but I feel it’s my only option now. I’m going to wait til tomorrow and if he’s still refusing to pay his half I’ll be taking it further.
@WillC - My OH is desperate to. I see his frustration and hopelessness whenever I talk to him about my housemate. But housemate won’t come out of his room if my OH is here (not because of anything we do… even if we’re in my room with the door closed, he won’t even leave his room… although he’s like that when it’s just me… won’t eat in front of me, go to the bathroom when I’m here… but that’s a whole different story ). My friend helped me with the utility bills info and echoed what I said about having no leg to stand on because of it all being in my name, however @MsSubExperimenter made a good suggestion above. And nothing in the contract mentions having other people over!
I’ll certainly be on to my landlord. Thank you both x
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You’re welcome, i hope you get it sorted, please keep us informed. Take care
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Good luck @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x it’s super sweet of you to not want to bring this to your landlord to look after him, but you also have to look after yourself.
Keep us posted x
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I remember you mentioning the landlord a while ago ? @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x try to seek some independent advise hun citizens advise and see if they can assist you! As you already are aware he should not get away with his behaviour hun it’s distrusting! Sorry for your trouble he seems to be a prick needs putting in his place . 
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He really does! Thanks for your lovely words, always appreciated 
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