Not really something that I would usually post on an internet forum, but hopefully overcoming any potential embarassment will mean I'll save money in the long run and hopefully have more enjoyable sex.
Been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years, and for the most part of that we've been sexually active.
I knew from before we got intimate that I would probably be "quick", and talked to her about it beforehand - she was understanding, she got one of these (http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=7408 ) before we found LH. It didn't really appear to help too much - to get any decent effect from it, it would also become painful.
Handling PE on it's own is usually fairly easy, i.e wait a bit and go again. Which is where the ED kicked in. Thinking "Probably nerves etc, and will most likely pass with time", it didn't.
Early to mid last year we decided to look into other things that may help.
Off the top of my head, some examples are:
-making me come, and then her (oral and/or toy) so she's tighter and then try again. - This had mixed results, sometimes helped sometimes didn't.
- for a few months she was on the nuvaring (she's swedish, so can get it on their "NHS"), which helped most of time, but caused her to have mood swings so she stopped using it.
- Trojan Extended Pleasure condoms: These some of the time are great, other times, ED just kicks in due to the loss of some of the feeling, so again aren't always effective.
- Cockrings: These often help the 2nd time round, but like the love ring, are often painful for me rather than pleasurable.
- BJs: mixed results again, sometimes these help, sometimes they don't.
- Extended foreplay: usually results in being quicker, and doesn't have any effect on the ED.
Last month I finally bit the bullet and admitted to myself that it wasn't going to go away so booked myself in at the docs (at the time I thought Viagra could be available on the NHS, and then I started to research, and found in most cases it wasn't).
Went to the docs over a week ago to discuss the above, he agreed that it was most likely not psycological, and recognised that we had tried pretty much any recommended technique out there to help, he wanted me to have a blood test to rule out diabetes etc, went for that last wednesday, and went back to the docs today to discuss the results. Good news being that there's nothing wrong with me from that test. Bad news being is that I'm not eligable for Viagra on the NHS. Though he did give me the private prescription for free, for 4 50mg of viagra. I just need to pay for those. Even using pharmacy2u still works out at over £5 per tablet (ouch). Still I'm not going to let the free private prescription go to waste, and am going to give vigra a shot.
However, obviously I don't want to be paying through the nose to have enjoyable sex with my girlfriend for the rest of our lives, so want to arm myself with an arsenal of things to try, so I can work out what works best and for the cheapest overall price, these are some of the things I've thought of:
- Golden Root Complex (~£3/session)- I've been on the fence on this since I admitted my problems weren't going to go away, I've had bad experiences with herbal remedies recently, and not sure I really trust what has came out of China. This has mixed reviews, and it seems the MHRA aren't too happy about the way it's been advertised:http://www.mhra.gov.uk/Publications/Safetyguidance/DrugSafetyUpdate/CON030923
[quote]We have been made aware of several cases where a product sold as “Goldenroot
Complex” (promoted as a herbal alternative to Viagra for erectile dysfunction) has
been incorrectly advertised on the internet as regulated and approved by the
MHRA. There are no products that contain Golden Root (Rhodiola rosea) in the
UK that are licensed or registered for erectile dysfunction.[/quote]
I'm thinking this mainly means that there is no real link between the golden root herb and helping with ED, but it does sound pretty severe.
- Female Condoms (~£1/session) - As previously stated, for me not having a condom on helps, I don't know whether having her wear it will have the same effect, something worth trying without really any risks.
- Lust Buster Pump (£24 - one off) - not tried a pump before. The vacuum effect could help get him back up again after the 1st session. seems to have some minor risks from misuse.
- China Brush Delay Solution (~60p/session) - most likely would need to be used in combination with something else listed, again lack of trust for medical stuff that has came out of china has me worried.
Any comments on these or other suggestions are very much welcome.
Thanks for reading :)
