Hi everyone So my relationship has recently broke down, him no longer wanting to be with me, blaming me for everything etc.
We have two very small kids together and I live in his house but to me our family home. He wants us out but doesn’t want to look like the bad guy in evicting me and his kids. Now solicitors etc have been involved and are again currently, I went back to them and he is very hurt by that which I get but he just shut me off and went back on agreements so I felt trapped and lost.
He has told me I need to request my notice which I would be stupid to do as that is making myself and my boys homeless. He then told me to lie and say I live somewhere else and get my family to evict me, which again I would be stupid to do as he could just tell me well you don’t live here it’s in black and white get out.
He has offered to help with a top up so I can rent but the council have told me to be very careful there because he could withdraw that, the housing benefit could change and I could be left in a position to not afford my rent etc leaving me and the boys in threat of a hostile. I’m staying put and if he wants me and his boys out he will have to make that decision.
I have said to him I will forgo child maintenance if he lets me stay in the house that way he can use that money to rent a flat. I’m my opinion it would be easier, he has already moved out and there is only one of him and three of us. He says that insulting as he has an investment in the house but to me he also has an investment in his kids and that surely should include having a safe roof over there head.
They have been through enough without putting them through all the turmoil of moving, it not being safe, not being in a nice area etc or me being forced to move miles away back to my hometown away from their Dad but again that could be a rough area of housing we can get. I’m just being realistic to where we are and what we could afford or the help we could get. It’s all very uncertain and I don’t get why he would do that to his boys and be so damn nasty about it in the process.
Not helping me, not supporting with helping with the boys stuff. Your options would be great. Thanks in advance.