I know this probably isn't the place for it but I could really do with some advice.
I'm 21 and I now live in the annexe at my parents place, I pay rent £250 a month and all my bills and food. I'd happily pay more but I only work part time due to my hypermobility and fatigue and struggle month to month to get by as it is.
My brother is 16 months younger than me, he dropped out of Uni almost a year ago and has done nothing since then. He won't even look for a job. He just sits on his computer all day. And every day I come home from work he asks me to cook something or asks me to take his dirty plates to the kitchen, its gotten to the point where I dont visit my parents house despite it being mere seconds away because it grinds my gears that he does nothing for my parents.
I don't understand how he can live knowing he is scrounging of my parents who are in debt, self employeed and both have health problems. I'd love for him to just do the washing up or hoover the house just to pay his way, I mean he has nothing else to do?
I know my dad will flip out soon as he can't stand idleness, they already don't get along and I fear it might rip the family in two. But how do I tell my brother this when we have such a strained relationship already. I'm literraly terrified of my brother, when he doesnt get his own way he can be vicious, when he gets in a low mood I cant be on my own with him for fear he will string me up or worse.
He has always brought me down from a young age calling me names and making constant digs at me, he did this with my sisters too, its as if he thrives on making others cry. Today I hoovered and mopped all the floors in their house (admittedly my dog threw up everywhere so this was my main reasoning) but I thought I might aswell clean the rest of it whilst I was there, I asked him if he would do the washing up so that mum could come home to a tidy kitchen and my brother just turned round and said just shut up you know what will happen if you keep talking. I was feeling pretty brave so I called him a selfish, ignorant asshole which usually would have got me pinned against a wall and screamed at but I got out sharpish.
Should I stay out of it and wait for my dad to fly off the handle and kick him out, at which point I or one of my siblings will probably end up taking him in and the whole process will start all over again, or should I say something to him about pulling his weight.
I don't feel like its right to just ignore it when I can see its a problem thats going to snowball, I really worry about my brother that he is depressed and has lost his purpose in life. But its no excuse for him thinking that he can live in my parents house for free without even doing a few chores.
HELP