sweetlove666 wrote:
to be honest i loved the moviewhen i first saw it, it was my first introduction to the sub.dom relationships . but thinking about it now the consent thing is an issue
re replacing the SI (self injury) with another kind of pain, she was vunerable when they had the first encounter. for quite a few people (me included) when you cant get to your "kit" to SI you just used whatever you had ( i used to cut/burn/ hair pull/take medicines and all sorts), and sometimes youre that vinerable that you just want someone to love you, in any way or form.
yes it is liberating to say enough is anough with SI/SH but its got to be done for you and not someone else.
But that's the thing though, i didnt read it as her stopping for him - more that he liberated her enough and she then stopped because she didnt need it anymore.
if you remember, there is part of it where theyre not together and she keeps looking for people to dom her..
Morbidia wrote:
And SL. i think its the case of people stop SHing for different reasons, i stopped as i found someone who loved me, so i think its not necessarily something that has to be done for you or by you, but having an external influence can make you realise certain things, that you sometimes cant on your own, some people need that external thing, others find the power within themselves to stop x x x
Id already stopped pretty much before i got with my gorgeous OH but he gives me the strength not to go back to it i think, not in that im doing it 'for him' but rather knowing i am loved and cherished by him grants me the strength to stop myself from returning to it.