My wife and I have been together for a long time. We like spanking, we've done very light bondage, but we've decided we are ready to pursue a BDSM lifestyle and delve much deeper than ever before. She is ready to give herself to me completely and I want to take everything she's offering.
I'm running into some confusion, however. We have a strong relationship and communicate well, but we also have ways of doing things that are long-established, almost reflexive. As we have been trying scenes, there's awkwardness inherent from the changes in our tones of voice that are less familiar, new words our tongues aren't used to saying.
Can anyone give any advice for easing the transition of bringing BDSM into a well-established relationship?
I also want to set up at least one serious, long slave training session for her. I am doing my homework and trying to find out what I like and what she likes, but I would appreciate any tips, tricks, phrases to use, or anything else you might think is helpful to a first-timer.