Morning all,
I'm after a bit of advice. My boyfriend has stopped talking to me about anything sex related and it's driving me nuts.
When we first got together, and for long while after, we would exchange naughty texts and pictures, have phone sex, the lot. I've noticed over the last year that he has stopped talking about anyting to do with sex whatsoever and if I ever bring it up via text. phone, whatever, he will change the subject or give really short answers like "ok" or "sounds good". He will talk about it to some extent in person.
In the week, we had a really amazing session of foreplay, with some light anal play involved, and he seemed to really be into it. We couldn't actually have sex because we'd ran out of condoms. We were both left really really horny so the next day when we were shopping, I picked some up and gave him a cheeky wink. We went home, watched a film, and went to bed. I tried cuddling up to him, nothing. I told him he seemed really distracted and off with me, and he apologised and said he was a bit worried about money this month. I shrugged it off and went to sleep.
Then, last night, while he was in work, I text him saying I was horny and what did he think about trying anal? (for me, not him). He said "um I would try it, I guess" I text back saying that I would like to try it, but start out with something small etc etc, he text back "ok". It turned into a big argument, because I said I couldn't talk to him about sex, and he said it made him feel uncomfortable, and he feels weird talking about "all that stuff".
I reassurred him that it's nothing to be embarrassed about, and I like to be open with him and would love it to be a two way thing. I told him that after 5 years of being together, I would expect us to feel comfortable enough around each other that we would talk about anything and everything, but I always feel like im treading on egg shells when I talk about sex because I know he will change the subject or go all quiet on me. He said that he does feel comfortable around me "obviously" but feels weird talking about sex.
Am I wrong to be annoyed and upset by this? Like I said, we've been together for almost 5 years, and we used to be able to talk about sex openly. He will talk about it openly in person but I don't see him all that often because of our different work patterns so would love to be able to exchange texts, emails and phone calls.
Anyone able to offer any advice or share anything? Thanks :) x