Oh honey I am curvy too and feel like I am just at a phase in life where I am at peace with my body and who I am. Enjoy the attention, bask in it for goodness sake... sounds like your ex was a jerk and you deserve to be in a better place where you do get positive feedback from men who appreciate who you are as a woman. I love that word mojo! Might need to borrow that as I work on a pep talk with a non forum friend.
I borrowed mojo from the Austin powers movies, I think it's a great term!