That’s hilarious! But I bet it gets them noticed quicker than any other form of advertising! 
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@wildflower thank you! 
Never ever thought I’d like wet look but tested the stockings ages ago and really liked it… now I have quite a few bits 
It really does make me feel Fierce 
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So I seriously need some advice, I’ve been putting off making this post since I first joined the forums. So over the last year, probably a few year’s to be honest my sex-drives gone. I’ve gone from being horny all the time to very rarely being up for it which is shit for myself and even more So for hubs 
I don’t like making new pages so hope it’s ok to put this here. I really need advice on how to get it back please help me folks
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Wow @Alyssa646 not an easy one to answer have you spoke to your hubby with out stating the obvious, he will of noticed the change in your sex drive are there any obvious changes for yourself I know my Mrs has swings and roundabouts dependant on her monthly and beginning of the menopause has a big impact on how she feels , maybe the best thing to do is talk to him if you have not already, lots of things have changed over the past 18month s or do for us all, working from home, spending more time together, your own and hubbies well-being, money worries all things that may have an impact on your issue love sorry not give you any more sound advise , hopefully some of the forum can provide more assistance for you hun 
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I have spoken to him @Gazza_64 about how it all started when I lost my confidence completely I detested the way I looked and couldn’t bare to look in the mirror as I felt so ugly which was awful, even more so for hubs who thought he’s the problem which of course was never the case, I’m the luckiest person in the world having him as my soul mate but he doesn’t get it he keeps thinking that I don’t fancy him anymore which couldn’t be further from the truth i fancy the pants off him (terrible pun with the situation,) I really do I look at him n think waw I’m so lucky as he’s beautiful on the inside and outside 
he’s put got a bit of a beer belly over a few years n he thinks it’s cos he’s put weight on no matter how many times I try to reassure him n explain it’s since I couldn’t bare to look at meself he doesn’t listen. That’s him having low self esteem though I am sure of it.
I want it back soooo badly but it’s not happening, I dnt know WTF my issue is now as my confidence is well n truly back I feel like I look good, have a good figure and nice enough face (Sorry to sound arrogant 
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Thank you for replying I really do appreciate it, it is getting me down so badly
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Seriously it may be a number of issues from hormones to stress, but you can overcome this. It seems like you both love each other, and our bodies do change with age, no matter how fit we are or how healthily we eat. All i can say is talk honestly and share your concerns. You can work things out together.
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Oh honey, that sucks. Im glad your in a better place now with your self confidence. I hope everything gets better for you.
My libido is a bit out of wack (meds) so i know exactly how much that sucks. For me, i find jiggle balls seriously help. The tracy cox ones (also available in a set with a lighter one) are the kind i find works best for me (the ones with a hard section are what your looking for). Put the hard plastic section facing forward and you can really feel the balls moving around, very good for turning you on. Wearing them regularly for an hour of so helps kick my libido into gear, so it might be worth a try.
Its also true what they say, the more you have sex, the more you want to have sex. Though for me (eg, crud libido) i often find i need to decide to have sex and then warm myself up to being turned on (basically, lots of foreplay) as opposed to having sex when im horny. Works perfectly well, even if it might seem back to front a bit.
Try not to stress about it if you can. I know thats not easy.
If you search the forum for something to do with no libido you will find alot of advice on here. Hopefully something will help 
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Thanks hun, I’ve got a good few pairs of kegal balls my favourite being the fsog set, the heavier ones which are metal balls. I used to wear them all the time n since my libido has vanished I’ve rarely bothered with owt n since my beloved suction toy died which is now discontinued I’ve not used any toys. I’m thinking I need to take your advice n start wearing kegal balls again n the fsog love egg as we used to have soooo much fun with that, hubs turning it upto the max when we’re out shopping n that 
Also possibly purchasing some new toys and lingerie should help as it’s always super exciting getting new ones and I’m desperate to take them for a test run (or I used to be, hopefully it’ll come when I get a delivery 
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I’m sorry your meds effect your libido, could you speak to your doctor about changing to seething different that’ll not affect your libido? Loving your method of getting in the mood btw 
Thank you for the advice and kind words I really do appreciate it hun
I think it is stress, also depression and anxiety having a massive impact @WillC even though I’ve nothing to be depressed about which is another story, I don’t understand why I’m depressed at all! Yeah we defiantly are head over heels in love with each other, he’s my everything and I couldn’t imagine life without him at all, it’s never gonna happen anyway I know we’re forever thanks for the lovely post I appreciate it big time
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Sadly no, hard to believe but these are actually good meds for me. Its more a case of finding the meds with the least side effects. one of the others i tried used to make me faint daily, and that wasnt even the worst, I was on that one for a year at least. Plus ive been taking them since i was a nipper so its kind of my norm. Didnt even realise anything was odd (just thought i was asexual) till about 2+yrs ago when for some reason my sex drive decided to turn on for the first time ever. 
so it could be worse.
This last 18 months has been so hard for everyone. I know its stressed me out no end. Have you considered trying meditation or yoga, might help a bit.
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@Green_Eyed_Girl no reason to apologise at all! Emotions run all over in my head all the time! Positive thoughts will prevail just when they’re supposed too and you’ll be waking up to one who you’re meant to be with very soon I’m sure 
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I was reading your previous post, sorry for not replying sooner. I know it’s easy to let your mind run wild thinking silly thoughts but you’re such a beautiful person within and beauty comes from within (only say within as I’ve not seen you but I’m sure you’re beautiful as we all are.)
Stop looking and it’ll happen that must be sooo difficult illness stealing the last ten years of your life it must be well difficult attempting to start living after that but you’ll do it I know you will bab
It’s brilliant that those meds are working even though they come with losing libido, I’ve heard people’s come back after a certain period of time on meds, I don’t know whether your meds will do so but fya xxx
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I know where you’re coming from, i used to stress and worry over the tiniest thing, and it took me a lot of deep thinking to realise it and change my mental attitude, but you can do it.
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Is there anyway you could explain how to stop stressing or change the thought process? I stress over everything, like even leaving the house. I l know I come across really confident n everyone thinks I am but it’s only on the outside inside I’m quaking about everything 
@SteelA1 @Alyssa646 thanks for saying such nice things guys. Hopefully it will all work out in the end. getting out a bit more will help. (I actually browsed dating websites last night. Oh my god, so scary 
but ive favourited a few so its forward momentum?)
@Alyssa646 noticed youd posted you had a nice session of “me” time And got all dressed up. Hope it helped a smidge, always makes me feel better.
X rated movies are actually not the worst idea. I often have to use something to give my libido a kick start (but im solo, so its trickier). You can always have a dirty movie night and watch together or read erotica to each other (which always sounds fun). Acting out whats going on in them is always really sexy too (the raunchy bits obviously )
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@rosiedosie thank you for the like.how are you enjoying this sunshine I have been in the garden nearly all day.no white bits what have u been doing
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We don’t have sunshine where I am (up north) Cloudy all day 
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Pleasure bab n I mean every word of it it’ll be great when we’re allowed to go out n meet up with different people (don’t know the rules atm down south.) Ooh go you on the dating websites just be ware of the people who are only looking for hook ups unless that’s what you want of course. I’ve never been on dating sites what are they like? Obviously I’ll never be on them to see for myself. My nightmare neighbours got together through a dating site year’s ago n they’ll be together forever I reckon.
I sure did then I went to sleep after a few hours of tv but it’s a start n I was thinking that too about erotica as I love reading it but ohs not so keen but if it gets me up to the task I’m sure he’ll b happy 
reckon that’s a great idea about a dirty movie night but it’s gotta be real people not fake porn if you get me as I’ve seen same horrific stories about the industry so refuse to watch that kinda porn.
Keep us posted on your dating site experiences n you could meet some awesome people along the way xx
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I am more at the toe-in-water stage. Everything needs to be a bit less covid for me to jump into that pond. But i researched some stuff and had a read (not looking for hookups, one nighters are not my thing). Chickened out of making an account as i dont know if its just going to jam me strait up there and im not ready for that yet
Maybe find a book thats from both male and female perspectives, then bookmark the sexy bits. Might be an easier jumping off point for him 
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