Hey everyone not been on for the last week.as been dealing with the breakdown of my relationship. I am not shocked that my sex drive is extremely low, its more that I feel like I don't know what to do by myself now (nothing is getting me.off). It sounds really silly as due to our jobs we only seen each other at weekends so I pleasured myself during the week.anyway! But I feel like I am desperate to play however nothing seems to be turning me.on when I try.
Anyway I guess I'm asking for.tips on new.things I could maybe try. Thanks xx
This sounds like you're going through a mental block. With women especially, me included, we have to be mentally turned on. Sometimes no matter what we do, when we're feeling down or not quite right, we can't orgasam. Obviously this doesn't happen to everyone, but I think this is the case this time.
You're just going through a rough time which is totally understandable, and you're just feeling a bit down and not really in the mood. Maybe read some erotica? That might get you ticking, or if not, just have a break until you feel ready. There's nothing wrong with occasionally losing your libido through stress.
My libido is entirely linked to my mood. Even now I can be totally turned on one minute, but if something bums me out it seems to numb it completely.
A relationship break down is completely likely to have this effect. Personally if I was you I would probably focus on pampering, long sensual baths, some wine (if you partake) and I agree with Mrs on the erotica. I can recommend a good website for this, but it's mine so I might be biased, lol.
Things will pick up again, but certainly don't put pressure on yourself. X
Thanks MrsMcX I feel like im turned on until I start. Ive never had this with my exs which is making it harder, I think after I've worked today I might look through the book section of the site and see if I can find anything.
I think its harder because its the weekend and this is usually our time, so ive picked up extra shifts instead xx
Thanks LadyS im thinking the baths and wine will be a necessity tonight. Adidan, solo play, I cant bear the thought of being with someone else just now xx
I would recommend dive into some of the off topic word games,... Nothing like thinking up a new more. Challenging sexy word or combo to get your mind thinking more erotically! Get on a dating site for the simple thrill out of getting viewed/ messaged etc, maybe even a spot of sexting to get a bit flirty again. Harmless fun, that makes you feel a viable woman again.you don't have to follow through, but it will sure get you feeling better;)
Thank you naughty mum ill have a think bout dating sites but even the thought of talking to another guy hurts just now never really played the off topic word games maybe give it a try xx
A dating website doesn't sound like a good idea to me. You don't want to be diving into something else when you've got your relationship issues to deal with. It's hard breaking up, and you need to deal with it before throwing yourself into something. These things need time, and you need time to properly heal xx
This sounds like you're going through a mental block. With women especially, me included, we have to be mentally turned on. Sometimes no matter what we do, when we're feeling down or not quite right, we can't orgasam. Obviously this doesn't happen to everyone, but I think this is the case this time.
You're just going through a rough time which is totally understandable, and you're just feeling a bit down and not really in the mood. Maybe read some erotica? That might get you ticking, or if not, just have a break until you feel ready. There's nothing wrong with occasionally losing your libido through stress.
Hope you're feeling better soon xx
+1 - Totally agree with Mrs with regards the emotional/mental stimulation and I too hope you're feeling better soon Hun xx
Hi guys thanks for all the help and advice, we have had a good talk and decided that it isnt going to be fixed but we are going tonstay friends (we were good friends for a long time before getting together) all of the toys we had were at his and we agreed to get rid of them as we dont want to.use them ourselves, but wouldnt want them used with others. I have told.him.this includes my rabbit as even though it was mine before we were together we used it together, so being pay day ive treated myself to new toys and this alone seems to have gotten me excited again xx
Hi guys thanks for all the help and advice, we have had a good talk and decided that it isnt going to be fixed but we are going tonstay friends (we were good friends for a long time before getting together) all of the toys we had were at his and we agreed to get rid of them as we dont want to.use them ourselves, but wouldnt want them used with others. I have told.him.this includes my rabbit as even though it was mine before we were together we used it together, so being pay day ive treated myself to new toys and this alone seems to have gotten me excited again xx
Hi kayliixx, sorry to hear about your break up. I would have agree with Mrs, whilst you are wanting the physical release of an orgasm and all the great things that they give. Mentally you have an emotional block due to your break up.
All the other advice is great too, treat yourself, move on new toys is a great idea and a pamper yourself evening with nice food bath a little alcohol then a new toy to play with. But the most important bit is to try and relax, we hear so many times with sexual things if they are goal orientated we struggle to get there.
Finally it sounds so corny but it is so true, time is the only real cure for what pains you. Give your self a little time. You are sad and upset understandably, whilst you are making all the right decisions you will need a little time.
Don't forget to review all the new toys you get. Let us all know how you get on with them because someone in your situation will give invaluable reviews. Good luck.
Thanks gentle giant, ive been keeping busy most of the week out with friends or picking up extra shifts, however my order arrived today so a nice night with a bath and the new toys is a must. Just glad everyone is out tonight. Will definately.be reviewing the items and cant wait to finish work at 6 and get settled for.the night.
I really do.appreciate all.the advice and kind words from everyone. Thank you to everyone again xx
Thanks again for all the advice and gentle giant ive submitted my first review of one of the toys, which seems to have become my favourite. I think the pamper session with a few drinks and a bath then new toy definately helped. Thank you everyone xx