Hi,
Recently been introduced to the idea of a gangbang with my girlfriend. And in a way I really like the idea of telling all these guys what to do to her (BDSM) (Domination), and she really likes the idea of me being in an ultimate position of power over her.
But we both feel a bit weird about another guy being inside her. I just wanted to know what it felt like when you tried it.
I love the idea of people watching andgetting off to us but I'm not sure about letting our viewers join in.
BritishExhibitionist wrote:
Hi,
Recently been introduced to the idea of a gangbang with my girlfriend. And in a way I really like the idea of telling all these guys what to do to her (BDSM) (Domination), and she really likes the idea of me being in an ultimate position of power over her.
But we both feel a bit weird about another guy being inside her. I just wanted to know what it felt like when you tried it.
I love the idea of people watching andgetting off to us but I'm not sure about letting our viewers join in.
Hello :)
Just going to back track a bit and get some stuff cleared up. When you say gangbang do you mean a bunch of guys coming and having sex with your Mrs? And I'm assuming the BDSM/Domination comment is that there may be some kink and power play involved in this too rather than just standard vanilla [non-kinky] sex?
Before going full hog on that fantasy (which don't get me wrong is a great one indeed) why not explore some of those elements there. You've got BDSM stand alone. Are you currently quite kinky? Do you have a dom/sub dynamic already? Then you've got playing with others. This can be just kinky stuff without sex. For example I'm allowed to play with others if they have a specialty like whips or rope for example but sex is just for me and my OH. And then there's a swinging element which you seem a touch concerned about. I'd recommend going to a swinging club and seeing how comfortable you feel regarding your OH being allowed to do stuff with others before going full gangbang. There are plenty on websites like fabswingers.
You say you love the idea of people watching and getting off to you guys so why not go along to something and try that out first. Make sure it's definitely something you enjoy before inviting in another party. I love other people being in the room watching and being quiet during public play and once I've had after care I like them commenting on the scene but I wouldn't personally invite anyone else to play.
Feel free to ask more questions or elaborate. :)
Hi and welcome.
I am not sure I am 'qualified' to answer your questions, but I can offer my opinions.
I have never, and would never take part in such activities, but for people who do - fair play!
All I would say to you both, is that if you are in any way unsure, don't go there. You both need to be totally 100% on board for this to work, and even if you think you are, there is still the danger of it all going horribly wrong.
If you both like the idea of your girlfriend being filled in every conceivable way, why not try using a double ended dildo while she gives you a blow job or something like that.
Whatever you decide make sure it is what you both want, and play safe xx
I dont know from personal experience.
However, you appear to not be 100% on it. My advice: dont do it.
If you are dead-set on it, test the waters with bdsm together, with toys imitating a third person, then perhaps a threesome, and this is before I would even consider going for a full gang-bang
Maybe test the waters by having someone watch first too.
I just think its a very strong idea of something to do if youre not 100% and have not dabbled in similar, tamer activities before
If you're not sure then don't do it. Some things are better left fantasy. Maybe try using extra toys first rather than an extra person.
Thanks for the great replies!
We're most certainly Dom/sub,she absolutely loves being controlled by me.
The idea is that if we had a gangbang, I would be leading and taking care of my pet.
Although, I agree, we have a lot to explore alone! - we're both very new to BDSM.
Glad to hear youre loving your exploration :)
I agree that the gangbang idea is hot. But theres no rush. Baby steps are key to knowing you want to do it and it wont ruin anything. :)
I think that you're absolutely right, a gangbang is a big step. We're definitely both comfortable being watched though!
I, myself get very turned on by being watched,hence the name. Everytime I get the idea of someobdy watching us, it leaves me rock hard.
I just don't know who to get to watch as a first step in to the world of exhibitionism.
Research sex clubs in your area maybe?
Or if you have a particularly sexually chilled out friend? (I happen to have one of these, she has little emotional attachment and is chilled af sexually... i gave a blowjob with her there and she didnt bat an eyelid)
Could look online if youre confident youre not gonna bag a serial killer lol
Yeah,I believe there are some good ones nearby.
It's just a matter of trying not to go from being completely private to being watched by an entire club in one step, even for me that seems like a big step.
You could go once, just for a feel of the place, and not have sex. Ive never been to one, but from what Ive heard theyre chill and friendly, so you could go and socialise likr its a non-sex-orientated place for the first time?
Hoping someone with legit experience will jump on this thread with more suggestions :)
BritishExhibitionist wrote:
Yeah,I believe there are some good ones nearby.
It's just a matter of trying not to go from being completely private to being watched by an entire club in one step, even for me that seems like a big step.
You'll more than likely not have a whole club watching you (unless you're doing something particularly exotic!) and it'd likely be more just the few other people in the room. Some swingers clubs hold BDSM nights which is great to explore BDSM and public sex at the same time however no one joins in without express permission so it's great to test the waters :)
Whilst I attend a BDSM only club rather than one which allows sex I found it's good to start somewhere mroe private within the club, a side room or one with a lockable door to explore having fun in a kinky place, then move to increasingly public areas. We still don't use the main dungon for our play and prefer the upstairs, lesser used dungeon but thats more for space than anything. It's also best to start with clothes, if the club allows, like she can wear a dress and then get mroe naked once you're comfortable :)
I'd recommend fetlife for BDSM and fabswingers for swinging. Me and the OH looked into swinging but decided to put further exploration on hold until his mental health had improved.
BritishExhibitionist wrote:
Yeah,I believe there are some good ones nearby.
It's just a matter of trying not to go from being completely private to being watched by an entire club in one step, even for me that seems like a big step.
You'll more than likely not have a whole club watching you (unless you're doing something particularly exotic!) and it'd likely be more just the few other people in the room. Some swingers clubs hold BDSM nights which is great to explore BDSM and public sex at the same time however no one joins in without express permission so it's great to test the waters :)
Whilst I attend a BDSM only club rather than one which allows sex I found it's good to start somewhere mroe private within the club, a side room or one with a lockable door to explore having fun in a kinky place, then move to increasingly public areas. We still don't use the main dungon for our play and prefer the upstairs, lesser used dungeon but thats more for space than anything. It's also best to start with clothes, if the club allows, like she can wear a dress and then get mroe naked once you're comfortable :)
I'd recommend fetlife for BDSM and fabswingers for swinging. Me and the OH looked into swinging but decided to put further exploration on hold until his mental health had improved.
Edit: You may also find it hard to get people to dominate your OH but under your control. People tend to be dominant or submissive so whilst someone may happily dominate her and respect your boundaries as a couple saying "now you go do this and I'll do this" is likely not a situation people will want to get involved with.
There was a similar gangbang thread here this weekend gone.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/1461219-gangbang/
Some of the info & advice here may help.