I'm not sure if anything like this has been put forward before, but here goes nothing!
When you're pleasuring yourself, is there anyone you like to think of? Like the OH, or perhaps a secret crush your OH doesn't know about, a work colleague, or maybe a celebrity? Just curiousity getting the better of me, and in need of a bit of innocent fun as I'm bored.
I'll start us off. First couple of times, it was Rufus Sewell. Then, James Marsden. Last time, it was James Franco. Hey, when it's just me why can't I have my choice of fantasy partners? ;) lol
For me, it has always been my partner at the time, and thinking about a really hot session we had, or I will eleborate on a session or even invent one. The guy is usually always my partner, or a faceless guy (Not literally) but just...some guy I dont know. (I am focused below the neck anyway lol.) but faceless guy is pretty rare. I have never fantasised about a celeb. Don't know why but it just doesn't seem to work for me. Even if I watch porn and see a particularily hot scene, I will replace the guy with my partner later in my head.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think of it as cheating or think it is wrong in some way to imagine someone else. It just doesn't work for me.
I'm the same as fluffbags. It's always always my partner, sometimes with the addition of a faceless man/woman, never a celeb. Doesn't do it for me either. I always think about dirty recent sex we've had, stuff we've done and I mash it all together and elaborate! I don't fantasise about looks or physique I'm more into the acts... Xx
I'm the same as fluffbags. It's always always my partner, sometimes with the addition of a faceless man/woman, never a celeb. Doesn't do it for me either. I always think about dirty recent sex we've had, stuff we've done and I mash it all together and elaborate! I don't fantasise about looks or physique I'm more into the acts... Xx
Yeh! It is the acts, and I think maybe the reason (Not sure) I don't think of a celeb is because I have seen my partners sex face, heard his noises, the way he moves and touches and all that, so I can imagine it better. Usually though, it is remembering something really hot, from a noise he made or the things he said or the way he moved etc. Because it happened, I can just remember it at my leisure :D haha
I'm the same as fluffbags and misschar.. I almost always just think about my partner and a session we've recently had that I have really enjoyed or something I would really like to do with him. I don't get anything out of fantasizing over a celeb. Maybe because for me it's more the connection with the man that gets me going rather than what the man looks like x
I personally dont self pleasure very often, not really into watching porn . when the time comes i do find it a lot easier when im thinking about someone i know . most of the time it is my wife but have also thought about her friends and usually more than one at a time . I have told her my fantasies and she is fine with it as she too has pleasured herself while thinking about other people . I think its pretty normal ;)
I tend to have a crush of the week , this weeks is kirsty allsopp , don't know what it is about her I just find her incredibly womanly and attractive , I always find a minute to think of my lovely wife too of course x
For me, it has always been my partner at the time, and thinking about a really hot session we had, or I will eleborate on a session or even invent one. The guy is usually always my partner, or a faceless guy (Not literally) but just...some guy I dont know. (I am focused below the neck anyway lol.) but faceless guy is pretty rare. I have never fantasised about a celeb. Don't know why but it just doesn't seem to work for me. Even if I watch porn and see a particularily hot scene, I will replace the guy with my partner later in my head.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think of it as cheating or think it is wrong in some way to imagine someone else. It just doesn't work for me.
When you're pleasuring yourself, is there anyone you like to think of? Like the OH, or perhaps a secret crush your OH doesn't know about, a work colleague, or maybe a celebrity?
A single individual in their entirety and nothing/nobody else? That's rare for me. Last one I can think of was a Widerøe stewardess serving a short domestic flight up north. 100000% in my type ;) Monopolized my mind during the entire trip :p
When I was a young teenager I would get celebrity crushes all the time, but since becoming sexually active I rarely fantasise about anyone other than my partner. I can appreciate an attractive guy, but I don't seem to get crushes anymore.
It would seem that most people who have answered have OHs, but I'm speaking as a single woman.
I do have a crush on a regular guy, but I've yet to think about him during masturbation. I suppose it might have to do with the fact that he's married, and so I've told myself countless times that he's off-limits. Subconsciously, that rule must have applied itself to my fantasies. So that I don't remember them upon seeing him out & about afterwards and go red in the face in embarrassment or worse! In that sense, I guess celebrities work best for me because I have little chance of ever meeting them and remembering the fantasies in front of them! XD
Most of the time it's about a recent time me and my oh had, I replay it in my mind and it gets me off, or sometimes I use a visual stimulant, not professional stuff, I prefer amatuer (dunno why) I have some naughty pics off my oh that get put to good use to, but nothing beats the real thing.
If I'm in a relationship I think of that person. When I first split up with my ex I could only orgasm if I thought of him whilst masturbating and I would cry and hate myself afterwards haha. But then I started thinking about film characters and that seems to do the job. Loki, Thor, Achilles from Troy and Batman are my favourites.
Well, I can answer for both my ladyfriend and myself, as we have discussed this a few times.
When she shagging me, she only thinks of me and her. Likewise for me.
When she is pleasuring herself without me, she doesn't really think of anyone - she is focussed on her lady parts completely.
When I am pleasuring myself, who I think of depends on how I feel. If I think of my OH, I get sad that I am not with her, so I never finish off. So, I think of someone else. There are a couple of her friends I wouldn't mind shagging (no problem, she knows and thinks they are a good choice - although apparently neither of them are kinky enough for me). Sometimes I think of an old colleague I never got into bed (but would have liked to). Sometimes, I think about someone famous, although less so of late - my usual suspects are Gemma Atkinson, Keeley Hawes or Sarah Jane Mee from Sky News. The latter one really is Mee time!