Hi,
I was really interested how you all initiated sexy play and who is the tiger that starts it off? Do you leave out some sexy toys or do you pinch the others bum, or do you simply walk around the house starkers...
I write it on the calendar
10pm - sexy play
10.05 - post coitus shower
10.10 - sleep
Either party really,
If im really keen i get cuddly and go from there, if she really wants it she disappears off and comes back all dressed up.
Simple really :)
I like to drop an subtle hint like, 'it was so hot when you whipped me that time' 
I like to just grab his hand and pull him upstairs he knows where we are going and what we are going to do sometimes i can be a bit more subtle and go upstairs alone and after 5 mins he comes up thinking where has she gone mostly when that happens im already starkers on the bed though so he usually knows when i want to have some fun :)
Sum Sub wrote:
I write it on the calendar
10pm - sexy play
10.05 - post coitus shower
10.10 - sleep
That is so funny and is perhaps how I really feel at the moment. i have just no appetite for sex .
So at the moment if she wants sex she will have to initiate it usually by stroking me in various places after changing into an outfit which includes stockings. She likes stroking my tummy area first as its quite flat and firm now after my weightloss before she removes my shirt and then will move onto other areas.
Due to health issues I have and 2 kids it can never really be spontaneous. We usually do it every saturday and sometimes we will arrange it in the morning to do that evening. It's usually down to me as my partner has a very high sex drive and at the moment I dont
Generally i start it.
Sometimes its about grabbing time when the kids are out.
Often though i leave her a note on her pillow with one of her favourite vibrators suggesting that she wakes me up when she comes to bed ( i'm always in bed before her on a work day)
Half and half I think. If we lived together, it would probably be me more than him in Winter and him more in Summer as that's when our sex drives are higher than the others.
My husband lives away but I still get to see him twice a week without the kids. Usually on our evening visit one of us drags the other to the bedroom, its 50/50. I've always been tempted to turn up in nothing but my underwear and a coat but knowing my luck that's when I would be involved in a car accident or pulled over for some reason.
Ive got such a high sex drive I usually just jump on her in the evenings.. doesnt go down well some times haha. Other times she suprises me, by going up stairs to wash her hair or similar and then calls me upstairs. I walk in and suprise, Christmas has come early..
RosyCheek wrote:
My husband lives away but I still get to see him twice a week without the kids. Usually on our evening visit one of us drags the other to the bedroom, its 50/50. I've always been tempted to turn up in nothing but my underwear and a coat but knowing my luck that's when I would be involved in a car accident or pulled over for some reason.
Don't think like that just do it girl !
At the moment i iniate it first. We usually just start stroking eachother playfully then it goes from there. In a morning i like to wake him up by playing with his dick a little and he wakes me up in the night by fingering me or occasionally eating my pussy. All depends!
We love spontaneity, but family life can really make it difficult. We sometimes schedule fun times like we might schedule a dinner date! Makes life easier.
It's a bit of a contentious issue in my relationship actually. He's not in the mood very often and when he does try to initiate it's definitely 'subtle as a brick' territory. It'd be more effective with romance but I guess he knows I'll say yes because my sex drive is so much higher so it's not worth the effort.
When I've initiated in the past, I've done it with lingerie, surprising him with certain 'jobs', romantic baths, and basically anything that might actually work!
Really enjoyed reading these replies. All very varied. For me I guess I initiate first. I'd like it to be more the other way around as women who are forward really jingle my bell. The way I do it is to say that I'm going commando under my jeans, or I'm wearing some naughty men's sexy thong or something. She then has a good grope and undresses me on the couch. I like being undressed. Or I wear my famous red bathrobe with nothing on underneath. She then let's her hands wonder a bit.
Sometimes she suggests a massage but she is not that great at massage so I try to swerve by that one.
I love the idea of getting naughty and suggestive texts but that's not happened yet. I do have a lowish sex drive but I tend to stoke it up with self play and a bit of porn. This notches up my libido.
Simple ....my oh initiates it......sex is when he says so x
It's generally me, I can't resist him! Although occasionally he grabs me and pushes me on the bed but generally if it's the evening then he has to shower first before I'm allowed to touch him and if it's in the morning I tend to wake him with a blowjob. As we don't live together then so long as the younger kids aren't around then it's a given that we will! X
Both really, because we only see each other once a week or once a fortnight we see how long we can hold off once I get to his but he just pins me down most of the time or he'll cuddle into me and rub my shoulders and I know. If it's me I give him a massage and undress while doing it or I just climb ontop of him randomly, like I say to him I'd have him every second of everyday if I could, he really is my one weakness & addiction, I'm just in awe of him ^_^ x
Normally myself as my OH has a much lower sex drive. He prefers it in the morning where I prefer it at night.