im struggling to get myself finish are there any tips?
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@AWB1955 ahah of course i feel very embarrassed but i just need advice i can never orgasm when i’m having solo play and i’m not sure what i’m doing wrong so any advice or tips i really would appreciate 
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Can you orgams during partnered play?
As to find out what could improve your situation/orgasm chances, it would be helpful to know what you do, how far it gets you, and perhaps, if you have any insight into what is missing or stopping you from orgasming, that would be helpful.
Don’t hesitate in being graphic, we all masturbate, but we all do it slightly differently.
One last point, you maybe take some drugs that may prevent orgasm? A number of antidepressants sadly have that side effect on some people, for example.
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Have you thought about a mains powered wand? From reviews a womaniizer is also very good. Are you more into clit play or penetrative play that may help with alternatives @yellowb3
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One further question
Have you ever orgasmed from masturbation?
For me when I go solo my love honey wand does it every time Ibalso have a greedy girl vibrator with a thrusting head make sure you use lube get your mind into sexy thoughts hope this helps
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How good is the shower head looked at it but can i justify the price
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Dont feel embarrassed we are here to help as much as we can
Here are some tips for getting you there. As a starter without jumping to vibrators etc. Knowing your body and appreciating how it reacts to you touching your most sensitive bits is most important.
Find somewhere you fell relaxed and make sure that you will not be disturbed by anyone.
Masturbating whilst having a bath can relax you.
Don’t be ashamed to fantasise about someone or a situation. We all do it to get excited.
Love yourself. Start by playing with your nipples and rubbing your breasts.
When you are ready slide your hand down to your vagina and gently stroke your lips, then slip a finger inside. Take things slow and recognise that you are getting more aroused. Now move on to your clitoral area. Run you finger around it and feel how sensitive it is. Gently stroke it and feel it grow. If you find a particular intensity of stroking more pleasant than a gentle rub just do what builds your orgasm.
Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed about doing this. It is a most natural thing and everyone does it.
I’m sure that you just need a bit of encouragement to get you to orgasm and you have come to the right place, asking on here.
Never had this problem but I’m aware some women do - stress seems to be a problem-
If you are playing with yourself - where is your mind - if it’s work or family then you will have problems
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Never over think it, there are times when masturbation does not end in an orgasm.
As others have mentioned, the use of toys may help tip you over the edge.
There are a number of threads in the forum on this subject which might find useful.
I might not be much help as a male, but I’m sure it’s true for both, being relaxed and stress free is the starting place. Good luck 
Have you tried either having a butt plug in while using a dildo in your vagina or having a dildo in your vagina while using a rabbit on your clit. Feeling “full” always helps and a strong clit stimulation normally help too