right i need a bit of advice iv been with my sexually active since i was 18 and when i use toys i orgasm but never wet its like my mind blows but i dont cum and wen i have sex with a man i cant orgasm or become wet or nothin now my partner is gettin very frustrated with it its not like im not relaxed with cus i love havin sex but not too the point where i cum i even tried viagra too see if that would help but nothing someone please help me xx
When you say 'never wet' do you mean you never get wet (like wet turned on, or wet lubricated) or do you mean wet like squirt? Everyone reacts differently and a lot more girls don't squirt than do, so you shouldn't worry about that not happening. If your mind blows and you can orgasm with toys then that's a great start, maybe try using a toy with your guy, or getting him to tease you for absolutely ages with a toy, his fingers or his tongue so that you get really really horny. You could always play with your clit yourself or with a small vibrator while you have sex?
Just a few ideas off the top of my head, let us all know how things get on. x
Right well first of all stop worrying, we are all different some women are very dry and some women are very wet, i have the opposite problem to you and thats not much fun either, i really worry that i am too wet for my boyfriend to enjoy himself!!! (so u see u are not alone in worrying about things in that department). Also many women find it difficult to orgasm during sex. Have you tried using lube for the timebeing? Also what is it your partner is frustrated about?
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I think there are four issues here which are linked but might be best solved separately,
1) You say you don't get very wet. I assume you mean you don't get naturally lubricated. The best advice has already been given above. All women are different, some get wet all the time, others only when properly stimulated, others are naturally dry. ( Do you notice any difference depending on time of the month ?)
2) You do orgasm with toys! Great ! that means you are luckier than a good % of women who never orgasm. But not with your other half. Again good advice has already been given , ask your bf to stimulate you before penetration takes place. I always have a massive orgasm before penetration. Clitoral stimulation is vital for me, but that is not neccesarily the case for all women. Again you enjoy toys , so use them , during sex. Your bf will be massively turned on I assure you. You may also wish to try different positions as some work better than others.
3) You love having sex with your bf ! Great, again that makes you luckier than a lot of people . If worse comes to worse you still have a great ,amazing thing , a caring , loving ,sexual relationship. Sex for us females can lodge in the mind too much, you want to cum for him or for yourself during sex and that is what is holding you back. The stress of not orgasming during sex is making you not orgasm.
4) Your bf, well he may not understand why you don't get wet, or don't orgasm, so just talk to him. Put your orgasms during sex on the back burner for now explain to him how great he makes you feel during sex. Communication often leads to orgasm. May be some slightly dirty talk during sex will turn you both on..
Tell us how it goes ... Good luck friend.
Good advice there and a very nice profile pic!!!
frenchsirius wrote:
I think there are four issues here which are linked but might be best solved separately,
1) You say you don't get very wet. I assume you mean you don't get naturally lubricated. The best advice has already been given above. All women are different, some get wet all the time, others only when properly stimulated, others are naturally dry. ( Do you notice any difference depending on time of the month ?)
2) You do orgasm with toys! Great ! that means you are luckier than a good % of women who never orgasm. But not with your other half. Again good advice has already been given , ask your bf to stimulate you before penetration takes place. I always have a massive orgasm before penetration. Clitoral stimulation is vital for me, but that is not neccesarily the case for all women. Again you enjoy toys , so use them , during sex. Your bf will be massively turned on I assure you. You may also wish to try different positions as some work better than others.
3) You love having sex with your bf ! Great, again that makes you luckier than a lot of people . If worse comes to worse you still have a great ,amazing thing , a caring , loving ,sexual relationship. Sex for us females can lodge in the mind too much, you want to cum for him or for yourself during sex and that is what is holding you back. The stress of not orgasming during sex is making you not orgasm.
4) Your bf, well he may not understand why you don't get wet, or don't orgasm, so just talk to him. Put your orgasms during sex on the back burner for now explain to him how great he makes you feel during sex. Communication often leads to orgasm. May be some slightly dirty talk during sex will turn you both on..
Tell us how it goes ... Good luck friend.