right i need a bit of advice iv been with my sexually active since i was 18 and when i use toys i orgasm but never wet its like my mind blows but i dont cum and wen i have sex with a man i cant orgasm or become wet or nothin now my partner is gettin very frustrated with it its not like im not relaxed with cus i love havin sex but not too the point where i cum i even tried viagra too see if that would help but nothing someone please help me xx
Use different lubes to add the element of wetness and maybe you and your partner could use your sex toys together before you have sex so that he can play his part in pleasuring you and making you cum.
I really struggle having an orgasm during sex but if we have lots of warmin gup and sometimes some toys it can happen for me.
It just takes time. I can imagine it is incredibly frustrating for both of you. The worst thing to do is try and make yourself have an orgasm because the pressure your putting yourslef under will leave you unsatisfied and frustrated. It's hard to orgasm when your really trying becuase you're not fully relaxed.
I suppose if you are qorried about the dryness go see your doctor or nurse. They can give you some advice.
I hope everything is ok and sorry no one has replied. I only just saw it!
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I always feel that wetness takes time for me. I have to have been horny for over an hour for the wetness to seep out normally. So sometimes when I use toys myself (usually on my clit) I can orgasm but still not actually be that wet.
It is frustrating but I think you need to reassure your partner as it really won't help if he puts too much pressure on you. The fact that you're having fun is the most important bit!
I think most women struggle to orgasm easily with sex alone. I need LOADS of clit stimulation to come, my g-spot if just not enough. As PP says using toys together can help, eg a cock ring which vibrates while you have sex.
I'd also point out that orgasm is sometimes built up by people, you say your mind blows, is that not an orgasm? It's not the huge earth moving thing all the time that it's sometimes made out to be! A clit orgasm can be quite mild tbh.
I'd suggest time on your own to get to know what you like would help and then you can tell your partner exactly. Like I need a slow drumming on my clit, along with some fingering and thrusting in my pussy as well as dirty words, caresses etc. My mind is the important bit. I need to ahve that desire for my body to follow.
I'd summarise that there's nothing wrong with you and don't get too worried. just keep experimenting and it will happen but don;t get pressurised by your partner. Good luck!