MissBrownEyes92 wrote:
I have a question and i know there are threads out there abit like this but anyway.
My friend is 19 and a virgin, she knows that i have a LH account and she's asked me about getting a dildo for herself, her questions were.
Will i still be a virgin?
Will it hurt?
Will it make sex less painful when i do lose it?
Will I damage myself?
Will i bleed?
If i cant get it in does it mean that i wont be able to have sex?
She's looking at buying this dildo http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30879
I told her she would still be a virgin no matter what toy she used. And even though in SOME cultures being a virgin is about having an intact hymen i explained that most girls break these anyway...i believe anyway that to lose your virginity you have to have a real man penetrate you.
I told her it might hurt....and that as long as she is careful she will not do damage... but what do i say to the rest of the questions? Any advice would be great and then i will just forward this thread to her.
Thanks in advance! (I did ask her permission before posting here and was told its ok as long as i dont use names, she thinks being a virgin at 19 is a bad thing... I'm trying to help her understand that its not a rush. I wish i'd waited myself and she should cherish the fact she's not given it away to some random guy)
Will i still be a virgin? - That's more of a personal question, for instance, some people see as having no hymen not being a virgin, I myself feel that unless you consentually have sex with someone then you're still a virgin. That's just my take on it.
Will it hurt? It shouldn't hurt, she needs to relax, take her time and get used to her own body. If it hurts it's a sign that something is wrong and she needs to go slower. Use lubricant, don't just ram it in. You can use foreplay in solo maturbation too, so have foreplay with yourself.
Will it make sex less painful when i do lose it? IMO sex, even first time sex shouldn't be painful, if done correctly, the body is ready to be pentrated, the person is relaxed and ready not just physically but mentally too, then it shouldn't hurt. It didn't hurt me at all when I lost my virginity.
Will I damage myself? - Only if you just start ramming a toy in without preparing yourself.
Will i bleed? - This again is a personal question, it all depends on if her hymen is in tact - if she does horse riding, plays certain sports and wears tampons she probably won't bleed, even if she does bleed it won't be a lot, it's only a small amount of blood (Nothing like a period or anything) My hymen was in tact when I lost my virginity, I did bleed; it was only a small amount, it didn't hurt at all. It was just a case of afterwards there was a small amount of blood. Nothing to worry about.
If i cant get it in does it mean that i wont be able to have sex? - No, it means that your body wasn't ready. Take your time, don't stress. Use lubricant - If you can't get it in, go slower. Use your fingers and build yourself up. Just take your time, relax and have fun.