I'v done a search and have not found anything on this subject but I'm sure somebody will point me towards a post of similar content from 1974 but here goes all the same.
Okay firstly I'd like to add that I just can't comprehend swinging but I'm
not judging people who do either. Personally It'd break my heart to see my
missus close with anybody else and she feels the same way so that’s the way it’s
going to stay..
Anyway two of my mates went on a bit of a travelling holiday with their
partners and on one occasion they ended up sharing a twin double room and after
a long day and a few drinks they somehow ended up making out with their own
partners in the same room.. to make it clear they did not swap partners just
did it in front of each other!
They are now back from the trip and plan to do it again sometime as they
reckon it was amazing listening and watching each other.. I find it a complete
turn off but as I stated that’s just my personal take on it.
So for anybody else that isn't into swinging would you if given the
opportunity, have sex with your partner in the same room as another couple?
Thinking about it I can see how it would be a turn-on, the noises the other couple would make could be horny and even thinking about it makes me think "mmmmm, nice". To know others were getting enjoyment and may be watching me would be a bit of a turn on.....
In reality though I'm not sure I could do it. Aside from the fact I wouldn't want people to see me naked (lol) it could be awkward with friends and the pressure to perform etc.
They did it impromptu with a few drinks - makes for less pressure I think....
i've ad sex in the same caravan as my mate at the same time it was not planned it just happened aftera few drinks and amazing nothing was said the next day but everyone was smiling at breakfast in the morning!!!!
I think I'd find it really sexy having sex in the same room as another couple but it'd have to be pitch black. I wouldn't like to be watched I don't think as I'd feel insecure but I like the idea of hearing/being heard.
It depends. I could go for sight depending on the lighting - when me and the OH are cuddling in bed we have a lamp we put on which casts a nice warm glow around the room, but not too bright. Makes the room look cosy. I probably wouldn't mind being able to see/be seen by another couple in that kind of lighting. In the harsh light of day though, probably not!
I remember hearing someone going at it in a nearby room in the hotel we were staying.. and it put me right off. My partner seemed to like it though. I may just be a bit of a prude though when it comes to other people and sex. lol I'm quite loud, myself. >.<
I wouldn't really like it, I shouldn't think. Firstly I would be paranoid that my OH was watching them/listening to them and getting turned on by that more than me. The same reason I don't like us watching porn or anything. Secondly I would feel really self conscious and would worry more about how I was being seen or heard than how good the sex felt.
I wouldn't mind the next room quite as much, but I would never list it as a turn on...
I don't think I would mind showing a sex tape or live feed to strangers as much... As long as we had no chance of ever meeting, and they didn't return the favour!
I'm not put off by swinging and in the right circumstances I'm sure that it would be an erotic experience.
However it's not for me. I find my wife so sexually alluring that I only have eyes for her. I don't want or need anyone else.
In a previous relationship where we were less compatable I'd have swung but now I've found what I have always wanted both emotionally and physically and my wondering days are through.
I'm not put off by swinging and in the right circumstances I'm sure that it would be an erotic experience.
However it's not for me. I find my wife so sexually alluring that I only have eyes for her. I don't want or need anyone else.
In a previous relationship where we were less compatable I'd have swung but now I've found what I have always wanted both emotionally and physically and my wondering days are through.
Always been of a fantasy of mine. It would have to just happen I guess for it to occur but I like it as it's at the fringe of what could happen especially with a bit booze thrown in.
I think it's the noises and smells and obviously the shared intimacy as well that does it for me. It's kinda sharing but your not cheating either.
Interesting that nobody tried to push it into an orgy. Kinda sweet that I think!
I do wonder if the planned session will go down quite so well?
BigPoppa wrote:I do wonder if the planned session will go down quite so well?
I'm
curious myself.. they seemed keen that’s why they were hinting would I have any
interest (absolutely not BTW)
If it
ever happens it'll probably be after a night out and just head to one or other
of their houses.. That’s another thing I don't particularly agree with either..
its fine drinking and making out with your partner but I'm sure the drink will
only be used as an excuse if things lead any further.. its a mess waiting to
happen from what I can make but maybe I'm old fashioned in my views about my
relationship with my OH
i agree with luscious lips as it can be quite damaging for relationships especially if people don't communicate properly.
personally, i really like the idea of being watched whilst having sex but watching someone else having sex at the same time as us would have me wondering if my oh fancied the other woman or that he was more turned on watching that than with what we were doing. but that is totally just my insecure side.
but as i said i would love to be watched having sex!
You see I don't see it as being unfaithful. You're still having sex with only your partner and there is no touching etc between partners in the set up described.
Its a little like saying that you're cheating if you watch porn together whist having sex.
I do appreciate with alcohol it has huge potential for getting messy though. Some people do seem able to swing etc and be a very stable happy couple. Must take huge trust and confidence in yourself and each other I guess.
InMe wrote:
BigPoppa wrote:I do wonder if the planned session will go down quite so well?
I'm curious myself.. they seemed keen that’s why they were hinting would I have any interest (absolutely not BTW)
If it ever happens it'll probably be after a night out and just head to one or other of their houses.. That’s another thing I don't particularly agree with either.. its fine drinking and making out with your partner but I'm sure the drink will only be used as an excuse if things lead any further.. its a mess waiting to happen from what I can make but maybe I'm old fashioned in my views about my relationship with my OH
So they were looking to have 6 of you there do you think? Let us know if they do meet like this again and if they don't stray into each others territory if you know what I mean!
BigPoppa wrote: So they were looking to have 6 of you there do you think? Let us know if they do meet like this again and if they don't stray into each others territory if you know what I mean!
Emm thats the impresion I got BigPoppa but I wasn't asked directly if ya get me.. it was mentioned by one of the lads in a kinda suggestive manner but on seeing my reaction kinda had to justify the whole thing by saying it was so great they would be doing it again.. sometime! Never spoke two the two women involved so who knows what they have ta say about it.
I'm not put off by swinging and in the right circumstances I'm sure that it would be an erotic experience.
However it's not for me. I find my wife so sexually alluring that I only have eyes for her. I don't want or need anyone else.
In a previous relationship where we were less compatable I'd have swung but now I've found what I have always wanted both emotionally and physically and my wondering days are through.