is there anything you can do to help with anal sex?
i have a butt plug and other toys which I use when alone which with plenty of lube is fine, but being an active bi guy I still find the real thing a struggle.
so was wondering if there something I can do to make it easier?
been thinking about wearing my butt plug for an hour a day to help the muscles get use to it?
Whenever we plan to indulge in anal sex we prepare by using an anal syringe to get plenty of lube in there and then wear a medium butt plug for 10 to 15 minutes before hand. This relaxes the muscles in the anus so that penetration is smooth, easy and enjoyable.
The anal sphincter is designed to help expel waste from your body so it won't, and you don't want, it permanently relaxed. Like many others have said it is the foreplay in the hour or so before which is more important, and time to recover after. So have a look at the anal training toys, different sizes, or a pump up butt plug. But also learn to relax, pause and add more lube. In my experiences real anal is rarely like in the (porn) films. Never slips straight in, pauses for more lube or waiting for the body to relax to take more are rarely shown and just where are the awkward noises?! Ha ha ha Time, patience, lube & experience/experiment with preferred positions are you best allies when it comes to anal. Good luck xxx
Thanks the replies, much appreciated
yeah I find plenty of lube is the key and I usually control speed and depth by "riding" on top
Previous advice is spot on, lot's of lube, take your time and most importantly relax. The all round toy I have is: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30702 But if you want something that will last and train you try this: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17540 Don't get put off it starts off small. Good luck and have fun!
Sneaky-Squid-666 wrote:
where do you go to find casual hook ups? i have been training for a while and i now feel ready for the real thing, but i dont know anyone to hook up with
This isn't a hook up place. I've read your other posts with sympathy - check out the forum rules and don't hurt your wife - talk to her?
I use Fabguys
Sneaky-Squid-666 wrote:
MsR wrote:
Sneaky-Squid-666 wrote:
where do you go to find casual hook ups? i have been training for a while and i now feel ready for the real thing, but i dont know anyone to hook up with
This isn't a hook up place. I've read your other posts with sympathy - check out the forum rules and don't hurt your wife - talk to her?
i have only asked this question because it is something we both been talking about for a while, but we dont know how to take this subject to the next step. I in no way intended to violate any comunity standards or quidelins. she has said she's happy for me to experiment with another guy aslong as she is there at the time (for safety reasons). if my previous comment goes against standards then please feel free to delete it.
Fair enough. Apologies for jumping to the wrong conclusion. If you use the forum search box you'll find loads of advice about how to go about this safely and responsibly. Maybe look together?
Newportbiguy wrote:
is there anything you can do to help with anal sex?
i have a butt plug and other toys which I use when alone which with plenty of lube is fine, but being an active bi guy I still find the real thing a struggle.
so was wondering if there something I can do to make it easier?
been thinking about wearing my butt plug for an hour a day to help the muscles get use to it?
just relax and use plenty of lube, using toys and plugs often will help you as you will be used to stretching to accomodate something, using bigger toys will also help then find someone that will take thier time with you.