I love anal, OH doesn't though, says it's too tight nad uncomfortable so we dont do it much.
for me the most important thing is how the man behaves, if a man is too eager then i wont because i dont think they'll be able ot control themselves and go at my pace. i think porn has given unrealistic ideas as to how anal works.
the women in porn, you can see, have been warming up nad stretching for ages to be able to take a penis, all you see is the man walk up and "stick it in". so men think that that's what you do. when in reality all this gets you is a girfriend shooting through the roof and banned for life.
to expect a woman to let you do it you have ot show her you have control, including lots of foreplay beofre vaginal sex, unprepared vaginal sex is uncomfortable for a seccond while our body figures out whats happening and starts lubing up, anal sex stays painful, our bodies dont make lube or relax muscles there for us.
so if a woman knows that you dont prepare for anal sex, she certainly wont trust you near the rear.
also you odnt go straight into sex, it takes build up with fingers and even small plugs to build confidence, tecnique and trust. you also need loads of lube, something else you dont see in porn becuase theyre already prelubed and stretched.
if you're pushy about it and clumsy in hte bedroom anyway a woman will not even consider it.
if you're slow nad gentle and have lube and are prepared a woman may consider it after a while (and this can be over several or more sessions).
some women will never consider it. some women have been put off by previous partners being careless. some women have done it all as advised and still didint like it so will not try again.
and some women think (and rightly so to an extent) that its unhygeinic os wont try it.
I'm not saying your are overly eager with your partners or that you're clumsy in the bedroom its just advice from experience. a man that keeps asking for it or even keep trying for it when told "no" will never be given permission and as far as im concerned will find himself single and thrown out on the street