Personally I’m not. I come from a religious family and had a strict upbringing. I’m bisexual. I never had a girlfriend till I was 19. My first sexual encounter was with a friend.
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No. The only person who knows I want to play with a woman is my husband.
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Completely the opposite. Totally open with anyone and willing to discuss any topic. Love intimacy with a partner, love kink with a friend.
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Unfortunately I don’t have that option.
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Relatively. I don’t talk about it with just everybody, but its not like its a secret either. And in my multi-partner relationship, its pretty clear to even a casual observer that I like my husband AND my female partners.
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I am, my family was unfortunately very dysfunctional, so i just never cared about them and their opinion about what i do. I also have a bit of a defiant personality, so i just never cared much.
I did worry slightly about my grandmother reaction because she was the only person i cared about and i love her very much (she is religious too) but she always showed me love and welcomed my bf inviting him to birthday dinners, Christmas…
Never hided from friends and acquaintances, the ones that may have a problem with it can F themselves, there is always someone that is ok accepting who you are.
Professionally I work with very conservative people, so although i don’t hide it, i also don’t talk about it, i keep it professional and sexuality is never a topic.
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Totally in the closet, only 2 people know I’m bisexual, both my female best friends, I’ve never felt I needed to come out because I’m in a very happy straight marriage but also a lot of my family are of an age where they wouldn’t understand too.
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Weirdly I’m very reserved with my family about things although it’s all out in the open but with my friends I’m very open about stuff
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I’m glad other people are in a similar situation as me!
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Straight or bi?
Straight
TVF @Blueyes81 I think there’s lots of bi or even gay men in a straight marriage permanently locked in the closet due to how they would be perceived by people they know.
Both my female best friends, who know Im bi both agree im a homo-bisexual rather than hetro-bisexual even though I’m in a straight marriage, my longest female best friend, who Ive known for over 35 years and knows my wife too did tell me once she actually knew I was gay long before I came out to her as bisexual. Even now its quite obvious to her and says she wouldn’t be surprised no one else see’s it too.
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Nope. I’m bisexual, only my partner knows. My family would probably be accepting of it. But I just don’t feel like they need to know.
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That is a really interesting comment @Yes_man
I have never thought about bisexuality as being a sliding scale favouring one or another sexuality. Many throw around the whole “bi-curious” term but it often just means they are willing to touch a penis or breasts. I have always seen this issue from a hetro-bi stand point but now that you have mentioned it, I do know a gay friend that is looking at it from the other side (if that term applies).
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@be3169, I also know someone who is Bi but in a gay relationship, he always had gay relationships but would have been open to relationship with a woman if it happened it just never did for him.
I do think there is a big misconception that bisexual people always go for the opposite sex even if they’re attracted to both,
If I’m honest I was probably more interested in men in my teens and early twenties, when I met my OH she wasn’t my first girlfriend but the first for a few years, she’s also quite masculine looking which I was highly attracted too.
I dunno @Yes_man but my definition of “bi” is that one can have an equally balanced relationship with either gender. No issue waking up in the morning with male or female bod parts in bed and no issues with an ongoing relationship that you can take to High Street. (trying to work in a Brit term there). I hadn’t thought about it this much before but I think to truly be bi one needs to be equally attracted to Sally as much as Sammy but your point at a variation depending on sexuality is very valid. Bi curious is a term similar to “I’m into everything” when they are not.
I grew up in a quite open family but my mum wasn’t open to sexual discussions and was a bit of a « prude » (TO ME in my opinion) but probably because they wouldn’t really talk about this when she was growing up.
I am married now and my husband knows I’m really into girls sexually only, I’m not interested into a romantic relationship but it’s been months now it has become a real obsession as I think about it every day. I had my first experience with a girl who is a friend from high school as I went back home for a few months. My husband knew about it before and i made sure he was ok with it otherwise i wouldn’t have done it. He asked me after if I enjoyed it and if I wanted to do it again, well it’s definitely a big yes from me. We have moved to a rural area (so probably not) but we’re not far from the capital so possibilities here. I have no one to share this and it’s frustrating. I also don’t really want to go online to find someone, I’d like to meet someone in our everyday life with whom I’d really click and would like the same. There is a girl we have seen a few times at the casino (at the capital) and we needed to go to buy paint and here she was…. Working at that specific shop (there is a few so it was random we went to this one or……) Anyway I’m too shy to go talk to her but I’m hoping I’ll be able to go as we are new in the area and trying to make friends and then see….
@Yes_man and @be3169 great insight on things. Thank you for sharing.
With my close friends,I’m pretty open about everything. But to strangers/family (that I have left), I’m pretty quiet
That is exactly right. I am not shy about talking about it with anyone open to it but it’s also not a topic I raise in the local food court at lunch break either.
Only if it comes up in conversation. I’m not forcing people to know that I’m a bicurious sexually submissive non-monogamous woman. It’s only relevant if it comes up 
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