Are you open about your sexuality

Personally I’m not. I come from a religious family and had a strict upbringing. I’m bisexual. I never had a girlfriend till I was 19. My first sexual encounter was with a friend.

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No. The only person who knows I want to play with a woman is my husband.

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Completely the opposite. Totally open with anyone and willing to discuss any topic. Love intimacy with a partner, love kink with a friend.

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Unfortunately I don’t have that option.

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Relatively. I don’t talk about it with just everybody, but its not like its a secret either. And in my multi-partner relationship, its pretty clear to even a casual observer that I like my husband AND my female partners.

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I am, my family was unfortunately very dysfunctional, so i just never cared about them and their opinion about what i do. I also have a bit of a defiant personality, so i just never cared much.

I did worry slightly about my grandmother reaction because she was the only person i cared about and i love her very much (she is religious too) but she always showed me love and welcomed my bf inviting him to birthday dinners, Christmas…

Never hided from friends and acquaintances, the ones that may have a problem with it can F themselves, there is always someone that is ok accepting who you are.

Professionally I work with very conservative people, so although i don’t hide it, i also don’t talk about it, i keep it professional and sexuality is never a topic.

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Totally in the closet, only 2 people know I’m bisexual, both my female best friends, I’ve never felt I needed to come out because I’m in a very happy straight marriage but also a lot of my family are of an age where they wouldn’t understand too.

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Weirdly I’m very reserved with my family about things although it’s all out in the open but with my friends I’m very open about stuff

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I’m glad other people are in a similar situation as me!

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Straight or bi?

Straight

TVF @Blueyes81 I think there’s lots of bi or even gay men in a straight marriage permanently locked in the closet due to how they would be perceived by people they know.
Both my female best friends, who know Im bi both agree im a homo-bisexual rather than hetro-bisexual even though I’m in a straight marriage, my longest female best friend, who Ive known for over 35 years and knows my wife too did tell me once she actually knew I was gay long before I came out to her as bisexual. Even now its quite obvious to her and says she wouldn’t be surprised no one else see’s it too.

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Nope. I’m bisexual, only my partner knows. My family would probably be accepting of it. But I just don’t feel like they need to know.

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That is a really interesting comment @Yes_man

I have never thought about bisexuality as being a sliding scale favouring one or another sexuality. Many throw around the whole “bi-curious” term but it often just means they are willing to touch a penis or breasts. I have always seen this issue from a hetro-bi stand point but now that you have mentioned it, I do know a gay friend that is looking at it from the other side (if that term applies).

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@be3169, I also know someone who is Bi but in a gay relationship, he always had gay relationships but would have been open to relationship with a woman if it happened it just never did for him.
I do think there is a big misconception that bisexual people always go for the opposite sex even if they’re attracted to both,
If I’m honest I was probably more interested in men in my teens and early twenties, when I met my OH she wasn’t my first girlfriend but the first for a few years, she’s also quite masculine looking which I was highly attracted too.

I dunno @Yes_man but my definition of “bi” is that one can have an equally balanced relationship with either gender. No issue waking up in the morning with male or female bod parts in bed and no issues with an ongoing relationship that you can take to High Street. (trying to work in a Brit term there). I hadn’t thought about it this much before but I think to truly be bi one needs to be equally attracted to Sally as much as Sammy but your point at a variation depending on sexuality is very valid. Bi curious is a term similar to “I’m into everything” when they are not.