Awkward question.

Not sure if this is in the right section but here goes.

My first gf was heavily into pegging put never let me clean up first she enjoyed the ‘mess’. I’ve googled it and apparently the mess is a kink but ve nevered heard of it. Personally I’m not into it but I’m curious as to the why.

Anyone share any insight?

Er - no, sorry. I'm all for clean up first. Hope someone understands this - it sounds a bit regressionist? I'd be interested in her childhood . . .

Although not a mainstream kink, scat play is a valid kink. There are many reasons people like it, such as the taboo of it, but the only person who can answer why she likes it is your partner

Different things interest different people. It’s not an uncommon kink but it is one that is still considered taboo. There doesn’t always have to be a reason why we find appeal in something. Sometimes it just ticks the right boxes for us and we can’t explain why.

Scat is not for me but if that floats her boat, good for her for being open and honest about it although she should discuss with partners first to make sure it’s something that they are also ok with rather than insisting they don’t clean up first.

It does float our boat, and is definitely still very taboo.

We never clean up or out before we do anal, as doing so would take too long and probably kill the desire. We never plan anal, it just happens, and if I'm honest, there isn't usually much mess, although a few large towels on the bed never hurts.

One of these days, I'll write a blog post about this stuff (if I ever get the time).

Scat is a kink, but not one of my kinks. However, pegging is. I love it! Basically I love everything related to my partner's bum.

If I will give them oral, I want them to be cleaned. If we're doing other things, I really don't mind. Accidents happen and that's why we have towels and paper towels. Clean up quickly and discreetly and move on.

Never really thought about this one too much. We never really bother to clean up before anal, as KinkyMira said - we don't really plan on it either it just happens in the moment. I've def left a mess on my husband, but $h!t happens (pun intended) lol

Each to their own though!

As has been said before, sh!t happens! I've accidentally umm shall we say... 'left a mark' on an ex partner and as initially grossed out as he was, he was rather mature about it and just cleaned himself off. However since then I do plan anal play a lot more as personally I don't want another incident to occur, therefore I take a lot of time to douche etc, but as has also been said that may kill the mood (this is where i just do it without my OH knowing) and then spring the idea on them during the foreplay... if anal doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen and we move on haha!

MrandMrs_L wrote:

Never really thought about this one too much. We never really bother to clean up before anal, as KinkyMira said - we don't really plan on it either it just happens in the moment. I've def left a mess on my husband, but $h!t happens (pun intended) lol

Each to their own though!

KinkyMira wrote:

It does float our boat, and is definitely still very taboo.

We never clean up or out before we do anal, as doing so would take too long and probably kill the desire. We never plan anal, it just happens, and if I'm honest, there isn't usually much mess, although a few large towels on the bed never hurts.

One of these days, I'll write a blog post about this stuff (if I ever get the time).

I'm the same with this, although hubby does think it's a little messy and obviously always wears a condom.

He will do it to make me happy and I have suggested to him if I douched myself first, would he give me anal more often?

I have never used a douche, but would love to try one, just to respect my hubby and for his peace of mind.

Also, to test one for myself and have that 'clean, empty' feeling inside my anus (never had the pleasure of experiencing this before!).

He first instigated anal when we got together as he'd never tried it with any previous partners and was curious.

When he asked me if I'd like to try it, I did straight away as I was as curious as him. Ever since then, I've loved it and it's something I really enjoy and get a lot of pleasure from.

Hubby does get the urge to give me anal, but always ensures he's squeaky clean after! x

It's nice that others (quoted above) feel the same and we can all talk about it.

I was afraid to bring this topic up myself as I wasn't sure how the majority of readers would react (possibly thinking it's a bit gross!)

Well done to these guys who have talked about it, I feel so relieved now. I wouldn't judge anyone on here, so I should assume the same of everyone else.

I respect each and every person's views about clean (or dirty!, lol) anal sex on here.

Different strokes for different folks. xx

Thanks everyone. 😊

Not at all into a poopy session. I usually have a shower about an hour before an bum play. I take lube, a butt plug and strapon dildo I want use into the shower. I usually check I'm clean with the plug, lube up 2 or 3 fingers and have check around for anything that might be hanging around. I then use the dildo to check if there's anything beyond the reach of both the dildo and my fingers. If there's anything on the dildo I clean it and add more lube, I keep doing this until its clean. I find if there's plenty lube deeper in then the poop doesn't become an issue during sex. Unless we go for longer than about 45 mins or I accidentally squeeze in the wrong way. Mrs is ok with a little mess, but not too much. I hate any mess and try to keep our bum sessions poop free. I love our anal sex sessions so I want things to be as turning on for her as possible. Which means as clean as possible too!!

Steven J wrote:

Not at all into a poopy session. I usually have a shower about an hour before an bum play. I take lube, a butt plug and strapon dildo I want use into the shower. I usually check I'm clean with the plug, lube up 2 or 3 fingers and have check around for anything that might be hanging around. I then use the dildo to check if there's anything beyond the reach of both the dildo and my fingers. If there's anything on the dildo I clean it and add more lube, I keep doing this until its clean. I find if there's plenty lube deeper in then the poop doesn't become an issue during sex. Unless we go for longer than about 45 mins or I accidentally squeeze in the wrong way. Mrs is ok with a little mess, but not too much. I hate any mess and try to keep our bum sessions poop free. I love our anal sex sessions so I want things to be as turning on for her as possible. Which means as clean as possible too!!

steven i strongly URGE you to buy an anal douche to clean your back passage properly. Using a plug and dildos and whatever else you have got going on doesnt really do the job. Check out this link as to why an anal douche is the right step forward for you. https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/sex/buyers-guide/how-to-use-an-anal-douche/

Hi Squirtypanda. I've considered them a few times. I've even spoken to a doctor about using them as I'm a likely candidate for prostate cancer due to my great-grandad and grandad dying from it and my dad has ad it. The doctor said the current evidence is douches have a negative impact on your bum regions chemical balance and should only be used when recommended by a medical professional. She said she couldn't recommend it for me. Honestly, I was disappointed by being told that as I deplore poopy pegging. I'm still tempted to get a douche though. It would be so nice to KNOW it was totally clean. You've just made me think about it again.

Personally Steven I think of your go has advised against douching then you really shouldn’t do it given your family history. Xxx

If your gp has advised against it, I certainly wouldn't.

I'm afraid you need to get a bit of perspecitve here. It's just a bit of poo. If you've ever had a baby, you'll have been knee deep in the stuff. Provided you are prepared with protection for the bed and things to wipe you off etc, just don't make a big deal of it and quietly clean up.

It certainly isn't worth increasing your risk of cancer over a bit of poo occasionally. xx

Yeah. You guys are right. The wife doesn't make a big deal about poop, but it does kill the moment a little on the rare occasions it happens. I actually have 4 children, my oldest is 18 and youngest is 2 very soon. Seen a lot of poop. Trying to make number 5, so will np doubt be seeing a lot more!!