I seem to be skewed on the rules and I honestly feel that the ladies get a bigger free pass than men on moderation of comments. I’m not upset by it but it doesn’t seem to have the same clout when one thing is said and then another is said by opposite members.
I understand the concept of keeping it above the bar with respect and comments that are offside. However, there isn’t another forum like this that is kept that allows people to ask questions, explore new ideas, get informed opinions or share their experiences. I think having rules on what can and can’t be said or commented on is difficult so I understand and respect the lines that are drawn.
Like @Buzboy said, no one intentionally breaks the rules (unless they don’t want to be here long) with their comments and the forum is a little self-policing as well. I think the members are great people and the have valid questions, concerns, ideas, perspectives and thoughts that I have implemented that WORK in my sex life. That is more than anything my parents or a general internet search will get me.
I’d be cautious as I think censoring things too much makes people want to not post, but letting everything go will push people away from here as well. I think you do a great job @Lovehoney_Brenna and I think we all need a realignment from time to time. On the other hand, I do get excited to try new things and express myself here, sometimes with graphic detail, with no harm meant. However, some posts get edited, which is fine, yet someone else’s posts, who’s are very similar or more graphic seem to be welcome with no issues. I think it can be a little confusing is all, and I have expressed that previously, and was reminded to keep it above par.
Regardless, I think that a side discussion or private chat room with ability to have one on one discussions (with a disclaimer and perhaps a trust quotient) where someone can opt out or in at anytime would be great. For example, if I am just learning about butt play and want to ask a certain member questions as they have been doing it for a long time, when I want details on a specific procedure for making my OH squirt or how to use a specific toy, this isn’t necessarily an attempt to get excited or have something to masturbate to - from my perspective it is 100% legit. Also, I will go somewhere else to get the answer anyway if removed or moderatated which takes me away from this site and makes me go somewhere else.
A split room where discussions could possibly be more graphic, where people can post their own stories with potentially intense sexual and graphic content (with or without pictures) and where one on one or group discussions can happen, makes this more of a community and keeps people on the site longer. Besides, the reason we are here is so we click the “Go Shopping” button and buy stuff. If the discussion makes a guy hard or a girl wet, do you not think they are more inclined to buy products and give it a try?
This forum does a service and is a remarkable marketing tool that I think can be expanded, not policed. And if people don’t want to be on the “dark side” of the forum, don’t go there… much like any website or video clip you see that isn’t your “thing”, opt out and move on. I hope we are all adults here.
Regardless, thanks for all you do to try and keep this on the rails! I have thoroughly enjoyed learning from everyone here and trying to get better everyday. No matter what the intent, the sexual content is why we are here. Thanks again!
Everyone on the site has sexual thoughts and behavior, everyone should understand that and have the mindset that not all content will be in your comfort zone. If we start limiting or gating the content too much, we all lose. So do we need additional rules or enforcement of existing rules?
. If not for ‘titilation’ as apposed to advise/recommendations I can’t see what can be gained from or any reason to enthasise wearing one NOW! Even if you happen to be wearing it at the time if it is not the aim of the post to arouse then there is no reason not to phrase your post in a different tense.
