laughing , having a few drinks , making eye contact and casually touching someones arm or leg in conversation is NOT a wind up .... its just an average night making friends ! lordy
I agree with this! and as woman if a man was flirting with me I would take it as a compliment and with a pinch of salt and def not think he was going to have to put out!!!!
what .. you mean if a man who flirted with you didnt put out at the end of the night , you wouldnt go on a natural born killers style murder spree ??? how odd ?lol x
Setting aside my issue with the "casual touching" you seem so relaxed about, the situation described by the OP clearly wasn't about making friends - no suggestion of meeting another time, no exchange of phone number, no "we are only here for a bit of a laugh sorry you took it seriously", no, just a rapid scarper once they had proved they could have had the guys if they had wanted - i.e a total wind-up.
CockTeaser LOL,As im remembering how my honey met me teasing me in a club,Took about six months of teasing,First month it was just her teasing me as i wasn't sure if this for real,Then i get a sign of how much she liked me,Then we were both teasing each other when i would see her only at weekends. At the start i never knew what was really going on in her head as she had her mate also getting me going,I thought hey her mate seems to be fun aswell,But her mate was just joking around,Still didn't stop me from having dreams.
Depends how you look at it. As we weren't there we can only guess and I'll be honest that in this case it does sound like it was just a bit wind up but you could argue that the reason they ran of, no exchange of numbers was because they realised he was probably only after one thing, he said himself he classes women who flirt that heavily as nymphomaniacs. Why didn't he ask for their numbers instead of expecting sex?
i bet they have a rule that as soon as the guys mentions sex thats it finished. Do you really think any pair of girls will have a foursome with two guys they met in a bar that night.
if you hadnt let your cock control your heads maybe they would be still friends with you now...assumin of course they dont have boyfriends already.
i bet they have a rule that as soon as the guys mentions sex thats it finished. Do you really think any pair of girls will have a foursome with two guys they met in a bar that night.
if you hadnt let your cock control your heads maybe they would be still friends with you now...assumin of course they dont have boyfriends already.
It is very awkward being invited to the house of somebody you dont know soley for the purpose of sex.
I met a charming guy, a friend of a friend, last year and rather than giving me his number or asking for mine asked me back to his house at the end of the night. I didn't want to go for various reasons but the parting at the end of the night ened up being awkward and I never sopke to him again.
I wouldn't want to sleep with someone I had just met, but that doesnt stop me flirting.
Go out NOT expecting to get laid. Only buy a woman drinks or give her attention because in that moment YOU are actually having fun and want to do it just because you do, rather than through expectations. Dont expect sex, just give her your number at the end of the night and if she genuinely liked you...hoorah she will text/call. If you go out throwing your cash at a woman and devoting all your attention at her all night only to find out she isnt interested then you will go home disappointed and if repeated, start getting bitter about it, yet you have no one to blame in reality but yourself for being silly. A tipsy woman having a flirt and a giggle with mates does not make a cock tease. What makes a cock tease is your expectations of what that woman should and isnt giving you. Just because you fancy her doesnt mean she is in to you and no amount of drinks is likely to change her mind (Unless you enjoy sex with a steaming woman who either cant remember or regrets the fact you shagged her the next day in which case... yay you.)
on our first date (in a resteraunt) I was too scared to flirt at all, at the end of the evening i said I had had a great time and was just about to ask if she would like to see me again when she said " we dont have to go straight home do we"?
Im sorry to say but i am one of those women that will flirt alot with men in pubs and have absolutly no intention of going home with them or maybe even speaking to them again. It's fun and social and makes for a fun night.
Obviously i don't know how bad these women were flirting and i do agree it was childish to run back over just to say no, but it sounds like harmless fun to me. A bit of company to socialise with.
Im sorry to say but i am one of those women that will flirt alot with men in pubs and have absolutly no intention of going home with them or maybe even speaking to them again. It's fun and social and makes for a fun night.
Obviously i don't know how bad these women were flirting and i do agree it was childish to run back over just to say no, but it sounds like harmless fun to me. A bit of company to socialise with.
germans are outrageous flirts easy to miss read the signals, i pulled a back muscle on saturday two women in the bar asked me if I had been to a dominiatrix lol...i think a lot of women use flirting to size up a mans attitude, confidence and humour
There may be problems with miscommunication, when one of two parts thinks he, or she, is just being friendly, and the other misinterprets this as being sexually available. Or maybe one of the two parts is genuinely interested, but the other (typically the man) moves too fast. Fluffbags is right.
Also, there are big cultural differences; as an American living abroad I notice this a lot.
But in any case it's better to err on the side of caution. I must confess that, probably because of my reserved temperament, I dislike flirts of both sexes.
I'd like to pick up one the "take it as a compliment" thing. This is clearly a matter of context and depends a lot on how things are done. In the scenario posted by the OP it seems quite the reverse. How much of a compliment would you see it if someone feigns interest only for you to find it was all a monstrous piss-take to get you to confess your attraction to them - in effect boosting their ego at the expense of yours.
BTW - people are talking like these guys directly mentioned sex to these girls. According to the OP they suggested going to their place for a drink.
its generally thought of as a very VERY bad idea an quite unsafe for two women to go back to a strange blokes house right after meeting them .
shit HAPPENS yeah the gal was childish coming back an saying no after theyd walked off .. but they were in NO way obliged to go anywhere with the op ... even if they HAD gon back tohis house they STILL would have ZERO obligation to have sex .
I need to clear up some things. If you had all been in that pub with me and my pal, and you had watched these two minxes at work, you ALL would have said that they were flirting OUTRAGEOUSLY and in a way that said.... 'I DOOO hope we get to fuck!'
We were just poor innocent lads having a drink after work, when these vixens (sexually) pounced on us.
You women (especially) have to be aware that there is flirting ('I think you're cute') and flirting ('give me your body'). The one that says 'SEX' is different from the other one because TOUCHING is involved. It's the unmistakeable sign that physical stuff is being proposed.
Oh, and everyone's posts are just brilliant...... such smart, interesting (fun) people in this place!!
but do you feel if someone is flirting outrageously that it means youre definitely getting sex ?
and do you feel like its a right you have if someones been flirting with you hard all evening ?
i for one am a natural flirt (unless i like someone , then i clam up haha ) but it dosent mean for one second ima go home an fuck you then & there .. sometimes its just fun to flirt .. not for teasings sake .. but because the company is good , and its just two people having FUN ...
but do you feel if someone is flirting outrageously that it means youre definitely getting sex ?
and do you feel like its a right you have if someones been flirting with you hard all evening ?
i for one am a natural flirt (unless i like someone , then i clam up haha ) but it dosent mean for one second ima go home an fuck you then & there .. sometimes its just fun to flirt .. not for teasings sake .. but because the company is good , and its just two people having FUN ...
No if someone were to flirt in a sexual way, I wouldn't assume that it was either a 'certainty' or that I had a 'right' to get it. But when your willy is starting to jump about and scream SEX SEX SEX in your ear..... it's a real downer if it turns out to be 'just a bit of fun'...... or 'I'm a girl and I do this when I've had a few'. Men are programmed to spread their seed, y'know. :)
an women are programmed supposedly to find a mate an breed .. but sometimes .. fun's just fun . AND things can get misconstrued !
Wrong Ruby !
Women are like birds. You've seen those nature programmes where the male bird does all that display with his feathers and flying about in a certain routine. He's having to prove himself to the female..... firstly that he's OK physically (he flies well), and secondly that he's OK mentally (because he knows the ritual / routine).
What does she do? She just sits there and thinks....'Hmmmm will this one do as a mate, or shall I give him the brush-off..... and wait for something better to show up?'
Women aren't programmed.... other than to give men the run around !!!
i would like to strike that last comment from the record as it genuinely makes you sound like an ass . sorry but it does
OK sorry! You can tell that underneath I'm bitter and twisted. Not really. Love and respect (most) women. It's just fun to say something provocative !!!