My boyfriend really wants to do anal but I'm not really sure about it. I have never done it before but I know he has. I am scared about doing it because I am worried it will hurt but I know he wants to do it and I am willing to try things with him.
Do I give in and try it with him? Or should I not? If I give in what do I need to know about it?
Hiya, of you don't feel comfortable with doing something then my advice is 100% stick to your guns and don't do it. We all have boundaries and our OH's should respect them. Never ever feel pressured into trying anything 😙💗xx
He definitely isn't pressuring me. He completely understand how I feel about it and he respects my decision. Just wasn't sure whether it was something I should consider for the future. I think all of us aren't sure what we like unless we try it.
Thank you for your advice 😊 xx
Having first had anal with my wife some 18 years ago I can recommend it as very pleasurable from the mans perspective and I'm not talking out of turn to say from my wife's either. We both enjoy it very much. Certainly the first few times it will be a daunting experience but if it is taken slowly and lots of lube is used then no reason that you will not enjoy it. I know that my wife said it was uncomfortable the first few times but she got used to it and it was no longer uncomfortable but very pleasurable.
It shouldn't hurt if you are well prepared and use a good quality lubricant. If it's something that interets you despite your nerves, then I would recommend starting with a finger, then moving to a small butt plug. You can then take it from there and build up to his penis.
If it's something that you don't want to explore at all, then tell him that. He should respect that it's a limit for you and not ask again. If it's something you're open to in the future, but not at the moment then tell him to put the idea to one side and you can come back to it later. There's no rush!
I can't! I hate myself for not doing anal... I keep on going here: and look at them loving it... I don't know if it's more frustrating than anything else. I mean, why is everybody enjoying so much and I don't? Suggestions?! tips!?
Why do you hate yourself for not doing something? We don't all enjoy the same sexual things. It would be boring if we did. It's likely that it's just not for you and that's fine. I'm sure there are plenty of other things that float your boat!
I wouldn't get frustrated over not enjoying things seen in porn either. You have to remember that porn is done to look good. It doesn't necessarily feel it. You wouldn't watch it if it looked like the people weren't having fun, right? There's a reason these stars are often referred to as 'adult actors' :)
Glendo wrote:
I can't! I hate myself for not doing anal... I keep on going here: http://
Glendo,
Are you sure you don't just keep posting on here to spam the forum? I mean, every time you post something it's got a link to a porn site inside it. Looks a bit suspect to me!
Try fingers first, yours, and his, perhaps try a butt plug, most of all you need to be totally relaxed and it should slip in ok once in just ask him to keep still, you on top is a good starting position then you can control things it will be a totally weired feeling at first , doggie is probably his most visual way but you can use many other positions too, if its not for you then oh well, my wife likes me to rim her but she would not admit it, and I really like her doing it to me, once we've both had a shower.
Tonight I let my OH use a finger- I have never been so horny in all my life- his cock throbbing inside me, a finger massaging me and me playing with my clit, - all I can say is wow...!! 
I had anal sex with [my OH] tonight for the first time for both of us. It felt uncomfortable at first I had to sit on top then we moved in to position properly so [my OH] could feel what it was really like then for me it started to feel alright. We used plenty of lube and in the end we did it a few times.
We took it slow so that it did not hurt as much. But I will try it again that's for sure.
There are still a lot of things sex wise that we still have not tried. While we here in Finland we have been trying new things.
EllieRae68 wrote:
I had anal sex with xxx tonight for the first time for both of us. It felt uncomfortable at first I had to sit on top then we moved in to position properly so xxx could feel what it was really like then for me it started to feel alright. We used plenty of lube and in the end we did it a few times.
We took it slow so that it did not hurt as much. But I will try it again that's for sure.
There are still a lot of things sex wise that we still have not tried. While we here in Finland we have been trying new things.
We both was quite surprised at how much we enjoyed it. [My OH] has started to come round to doing this now seen as we have been making love nearly all night. We did it again 20 minutes a go and still had great orgasms. I think we have been converted but will still finish in the normal way so I can see her face and touch her breasts.
When my OH first asked me to penetrate her anus it was in a period of wild abandonment in our relationship when she wanted to try every possibility of sex. I had never done this before either and we both got it so wrong with very little preparation and a smear of Vaseline. Let's just say we gave up very quickly on that first attempt.
When we next tried it was with a lot more prep by which I mean plenty of lubricant being frequently applied and one finger building to two fingers and then making a scissoring sort of motion to slowly open her wider. All the time this was going on my lips and other hand were engaged in other aspects of foreplay to make her relax more.
When it came to penetration she lay on her side with me spooning behind and she held the old chap in her hand and pushed back slowly until her sphincter relaxed and she gasped as it all slid into her. This position also enabled me to reach around and stimulate her pussy so that she could orgasm while I was inside her. Warning here that sphincter muscles contract when a lady orgasms. Tight grip.
This worked for us but may not for anyone else. We now have anal sex on occasions and it is always initiated by her and sometimes as part of a domination role play with her tied in a compromising position.
I am definitely more open to it. When he played around my bum with his fingers it feels good especially when he is inside me already.
I really enjoy regular sex with him and I don't think it will be as good. I'm still nervous about the pain.
Is it something that a condom should be used for?
We don't use them for normal sex. Just feels a lot better without one.
Just had a session last night with my OH where she had her first full anal orgasm. We used plenty of the Lovehoney Anal Lube and I brought my wife to orgasm using my fingers, managed to insert 3 at the same time. We had a good discussion around other toys to help prepare her to take me inside her And will be buying the glass Anal Dildo that comes highly recommended. My wife described her orgasm as a much deeper one than she would normally have and she certainly enjoyed it. Sure Anal play will become a regular feature of our lovemaking and hopefully she will agree to penetrate me
Just had a session last night with my OH where she had her first full anal orgasm. We used plenty of the Lovehoney Anal Lube and I brought my wife to orgasm using my fingers, managed to insert 3 at the same time. We had a good discussion around other toys to help prepare her to take me inside her And will be buying the glass Anal Dildo that comes highly recommended. My wife described her orgasm as a much deeper one than she would normally have and she certainly enjoyed it. Sure Anal play will become a regular feature of our lovemaking and hopefully she will agree to penetrate me